Tall Women or Short Women – Which Do Men Prefer?

A friend and I were discussing this very issue today while having lunch in an outdoor cafe. We decided to count couples and see how many had a taller man and shorter woman, and how many had a shorter man and taller woman.

There were over 20 couples and all of them was of a taller man with a shorter woman.

This is all fine and good but not very scientific. What does science say about this important issue?

study by Gillis and Avis in 1980 found that for every 100 couples, only 2 are likely to have a taller woman and shorter man. This suggests that in general, men tend to choose women who are shorter than they are and/or women choose men who are taller than they are.

Do Men Really Like Shorter Women?

The Gillis and Avis study shows that couples very frequently consist of a taller man together with a shorter woman.

However, this does not necessarily mean that men like shorter girls. In fact, one can argue that the height preference largely comes from the woman’s side. Perhaps the man has no height preference, but simply dates shorter women because shorter women find them more attractive.

To get a more comprehensive view of this tall vs. short women issue, I also examined data from Yahoo Answers!. In particular, I did a search for “tall vs. short women” questions.

I collected a total of 54 responses over about 20 related questions. 29 of the responses were from men, and 25 from women. Of the men,

  • 52% said that they like shorter women,
  • 31% said that height is not an issue, and
  • only 17% said that they like tall women.

These figures seem consistent with the results of my Attractive Women Survey which showed that only 19% of voters like tall women.

Of the women,

  • 24% said that men like shorter women,
  • 36% said that height is not an issue,
  • 40% said that men like tall women.

What is especially interesting about the Yahoo! Answers data is that the woman’s view differs so greatly from the man’s view. Upon greater examination though, we found that of the 10 women who claimed that men prefer taller women, 7 were 5’8”-5’9”, and 1 was 5’5”. Therefore, the relatively small data-set and abnormal height distribution of respondents likely skewed the results.

Data from more rigorous scientific studies also support the hypothesis that men have a preference for shorter women.

“We found that shorter, slimmer females with long slender legs, a curvy figure and larger breasts are more attractive,” said lead researcher Dr William Brown of Brunel University.

~~[The Telegraph]

Nettle’s study on 10,000 people born in the UK in 1958 also showed that –

Shorter women are more likely to have long-term relationships with men, and more likely to have children …

~~[New Scientist]

Why Do Men Like Shorter Women?

Most female models are very tall. Based on this female ideal, it seems that all of us have a preference for the tall, thin, and willowy look.

Therefore, why does the survey and scientific results show that men like shorter women? It seems that here, at least, there is an inconsistency between the media feminine ideal and our real-world feminine ideal.

Certainly tall women have the following advantages –

  • Clothes fall and drape more naturally on taller women.
  • Tall women can handle extra weight much better than shorter women.
  • Tall women get noticed more easily because they naturally stand out in a crowd.

All of these attributes make taller women especially suited for the modelling profession. We want models to stand out from the crowd and we want them to look especially good in a wide range of dress styles.

However, a woman’s greater height becomes more of a liability during mate selection because height is often associated with strength and power. These are traditionally traits that are highly regarded in men but less so in women. A tall woman may therefore have an emasculating effect on a shorter man.

In addition, while women frequently select mates based on strength, success, and power; men are more likely to select mates based on fertility. Nettle further pointed out that –

… girls with late sexual maturity will be taller than those who mature early, because they are growing for longer.

~~[Proceedings of the Royal Society of Biological Sciences]

According to Nettle, taller women become fertile at a later date when compared to their shorter counterparts. This could also be another contributing factor to a man’s preference for shorter women.

Don’t Men Want Tall Sons?

What’s strange is that I would like to be taller and I would like my future son(s) to be taller. So it would really make more sense to choose a tall mate with genes that will produce a son who is tall. And yet I’m attracted to short women.

~~[Yahoo! Answers]

Another related factor to this tall vs. short women question is the height of our resulting children. If men do indeed select based on fertility, it seems that part of that fertility question would involve the strength and power of the resulting offspring. As was pointed out in the comment above, selection of a taller woman would increase the chances of producing a taller son.

However, based on all the data it seems that the attributes of our offspring are less significant than the social effects of having a taller female spouse, as well as possible maturity issues as related to height.

Are Tall Women Out of Luck?

Finally, it should also be mentioned that height selection and preference is a relative thing.

Most men like women that are shorter than they are and most women like men that are taller than they are. Men who are over 6 feet tall will have less problems dating tall women because they will still be the taller one in the relationship.

However, the distribution of heights for men and women follow the usual bell-curve shape. This suggests that tall women will have a smaller selection of men to choose from.

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  1. Adriana says

    Hi Small and Tall Women! :-)

    I have read almost all your answers and I have been really surprised to see that tall women are not happy because being tall and that men prefer most of the time shorter women. Incredible… I always thought men adore tall women. I feel so sorry for those of you who are tall women and suffering because men pay attention to shorter women…
    Me too I’m suffering, but because being short. I’m not an American girl, I’m Italian, 157 cm and 32 years old. In Italy many girls are taller than me, most of them around 165. I always hated my height, I wish I could have been taller… Men like me as I am, most of them, because I am slim (50 kg, small breast). But I still feel complexed. For being so complexed, I even declared to authorities that I am 160 cm tall, for my identity card and passport…
    And like it was not enough, years ago I knew on line a man tall 191 cm, the perfect man from all points of view. I’ve been always attracted by tall men. And even if I wanted to meet him so much and he was ok with my height, I got more complexed everyday. One day he told me to stop thinking like this because LOVE IS NOT ABOUT HEIGHTS. I should have listen to him…But I didn’t, I kept thinking that when he will meet me he will not like me because too much short for him and when he will reject me, I will suffer so much. So I didn’t meet him face to face. We met other people in these years, but we kept talking like friends. He is always there for me when I need him, giving me advices, listening to me when I am happy or sad. I never had such a wonderful and deep feeling with a man…I care so much about our friendship, but in all these years I never forget him, I’m still thinking about him because the truth is I love him, but I don’t have the courage to tell him…We planned to meet this year some months ago, just to meet each other. At the last moment something happened and I didn’t meet him yet…I am single thinking about him, he is with another woman but as it seems not very involved… And sometimes I am still scared that he would prefer a tall woman than me…What I know is that I want to meet him so much…
    What would you do if you were me?
    Greetings to all of you!

    • Buff Stud says

      Be happy you are the height you are; you have a MUCH larger dating pool than taller women do.

      If you were a guy and only 5’2″ tall at 15 years old, you would have a tough row to hoe when it comes to dating; women ALWAYS go for taller guys.

      Select a guy that is between 2″ and 6″ taller than yourself if you want a long lasting relationship; 87.93% of marriages in the USA that last twenty-five years or more, include a man that is just 4.1″ taller than the woman on average.

      Women that are looking for a one night stand elect a man that is 8″ taller or more… While men select a woman that is more than 6″ shorter for those one night stand.

    • Anonymous says

      Same here. I’m Asian (I live in Asia) and I’m actually short compared with my friends. I also don’t have any curves and I’m just waiting for a growth spurt to happen!

  2. rawr says

    women have hangups over height, npt men. men only stick to shorter women because she has to be at least 4 inchest shorter than you to even consider you as relationship potential. sure there are exceptions, in like 1% of women who just don’t care. problem is even they have their fair share of suitors so they can pick and choose regardless. it’s just not worth the investment to date a tall woman unless she goes out of her way to prove that she’s not wasting your time.

  3. Maricel says

    I wish i could be taller im only 4’10-4’11and weight 100lbs.which im kind of heavy..everytime i walk with ky husband on the st.or in the store man are staring at me i got all the attention i dont think if it call attractive but for me its make me feel uncomfortbale..some guys they just giving me their # random..

  4. phan says

    there are so many comments of sob stories about you guys’ heights and not being able to achieve a romantic relationship or having rummors spread about you because you were too tall or too short and i just wanted you all to know that i think you are all damn hot wether you are 5ft or 6ft im here for you and think you are hella beautiful and if the people around you cannot see that you should get new people because you are stunning and i love you so much

    -kisses, A

  5. Anonymous says

    I’m 5’9” and most men that i date are basketball players (6’2″- …) and evry single one of them told me that they love my height so much
    But honestly if he likes you he wont look the height
    (Sorry if I speld something wrong, not american)

  6. Anonymous says

    I’m 5 foot 11 and in high school I really liked this guy who was a lot shorter than me. He was the shortest guy in class, but I didn’t really care and we got along really well. I eventually had the courage to ask him out and he rejected me because I was quote on quote “To tall” for him.
    It was a bit depressing and I felt really crappy even though my height is not really something I can control. I have the tendency to like shorter guys and it’s always tough when they reject me because of my height.

  7. Ethrie says

    On the bright side, as a powerful tall woman, you won’t be attracting the immature and weak men. Only powerful men can approach and handle. I’d say take advantage of your height!

    • Anonymous says

      I’m 5’1.5″.. I was like an average girl in the school.. no one flirted with me, but now I’m of the same height and now few of my school mates like me a lot saying I’m cute…few guys say I’m ok with my height and any boy could ever prefer, but now I love my friend a lot he love me too, he cares me such a way that i’d give my life to him, but he never expressed.. but he says he likes tall girls.. he is 6’1.5″ I feel I’m a way too short for him. May be he likes me if I’m chubby.

    • Anonymous says

      Actually that’s false. A lot of taller guys are weak inside depending on extrinsic factors like their height and not developing their mental cultivation much. The best man will be one that is strong inside and has overcome challenges, not one who has been given more. A strong shorter guy is truly an exemplar specimen of a man who can overcome his shortcomings

    • Anonymous says

      Implying men of shorter stature somehow lack maturity and power. Many men go against what you say such as Bill Gates and from my personal experience shorter men seem to have more academic drive.

      Just for clarification I’m 5`10″ so I’m the un-bias mid-ground in this debate.

  8. Momo says

    I’m 6’2″, 16, and female. I personally find this post to be very true. All of my friends are short and I constantly see them get flirted with and hit on. Even the guys that are really tall go for my friends. I find myself physically attractive and always have, but the male population never seems to think so. Of course, girls often hit on me (because obviously if I’m tall, that automatically means I’m a butch lesbian).
    I hate the “powerful” and “aggressive” image that comes with being a tall girl, because despite an athletic and curvy build, I really wish I was “cute” and “adorable” like my friends. I work out six days a week to have an ideal body, and yet men would rather a short, chubby girl that’s standing right next to me. I would honestly give anything to be desirable to men, even if the age group was above mine. Even older guys don’t find me attractive.
    Maybe I’m just one of those people that’s not meant to find love or something, lol…

    • Anonymous says

      Hey chick im 37 married with 3 young boys n i feel your pain… i struggled with my height when i was younger n im 6 ft 1 n size 10 feet… as iv got older n wiser iv realised men did find me attractive but intimidatin. Some men have a chip on there shoulder n cant deal with strong women.especially tall strong minded women b confident n cheeky. That gets you everywhere. Embrace your beauty someone out there will adore you one day i hated my height now i deal with it n smile n wave… hope this helps

    • anon says

      I’m a 5’10” 19 year old girl. I feel your pain. Even more so because your taller than me. But in high school these girls started a rumor my freshmen year that I was a lesbian- just because I was tall!! So not only were the boys throughout high school too intimidated to approach me, but the stigma of being a lesbian followed me the entire time I was there. I feel just as disheartened as you in terms of I’ve never been asked out on a date, never been flirted with, never even been kissed, and I’m pretty sure it’s because of the height, because, like you, I acknowledge that I am beautiful (all the catcalls I get from all the s*** men proves it) . It seems even harder because I’m smart and I love intellectual conversations. I love to run, and I was very athletic in highschool so I have the skinny, athletic build. I never once got asked to a school dance. I remember asking a guy I liked sophomore year to the sadie hawkin’s-esque dance and he showed up in his taller dress shoes because he was maybe an inch shorter than me and he told me “I’m so glad you didn’t wear heels” and I cried for a week after. I just wanted to say you’re not alone. Even now, in college, I’ve never once been approached, even by the taller guys, and I feel desperate and it sucks. Like, is it so bad to want even the smallest positive attention from a guy? It makes me feel totally rotten to be ignored by the opposite gender when I’m attracted to them…especially when I’m attracted to a specific person.

    • Anonymous says

      It’s easer to make fun of other people’s differences then to take a long deep look at your own shortcomings ( no pun intended ). I’m 5 foot 2 male and when I was younger I was teased so much I, could not even sit next to pretty girl never mind look her in the eye. I wish I could run away from my own self. The only thing that saved me was my dad!!! He was 5 feet 5 but really strong mechanic he showed my how to build my body how to make witty comebacks when teased about my height.
      I had to toughen up and not take any crap ( this did take almost five years). I’m still only 5″2″ but I’m the guy at work they come to first when they have a problem because I finally found confidence ,maturity , strength of will . I will not be beaten by a what life throws at me, be it stupid little comment about short guys are weak
      Your are not weak you can find inner strength and the strength drawn from family and close friends . And by the way tall girls rock!!!!!!!’!!

    • Bridget says

      Aw!!! Seriously I have the same problem. Just tell youself that you are a model and that guys are too intimidated to ask you out because they’ll think you’ll say no (because obvs they think you’d probably be taken if you’re a model!)

    • Anonymous says

      Hey, I’m a dude 6′ 4″ and personally, I find tall girls extremely attractive, I just like their slim beutiful features, so don’t be sad if you’re tall.

    • Anonymous says

      Hey, I am still growing and I have size 12 feet, but I am only 5’9.5! So, I just wanted to say that I know your pain.

    • Anonymous says

      Wish you could lend me 4 inches of your height we would both be happy! lol.. I’m 5’2 and I absolutely hate it. I would like to become a VS Model, everyone tells me if I was taller I’d be perfect and idc my height is my biggest insecurity as well. I feel like people don’t take short girls seriously.

  9. Anonymous says

    Honestly, guys only like shorter girls better. Guys don’t want to be with someone who is taller them and have to bend down just to kiss them. They want to piggy back them and carry them. Not something you can do with a tall girl.

  10. Ron says

    When a tall skinny guy is easily out-lifted in weightlifting by either a short fat girl or a short stocky girl, especially when he towers over her by more than a foot while she outweighs him by more than fifty pounds, he sometimes feels ashamed or embarrassed (or both). However, he often becomes REALLY TURNED ON (and so does she!!!).

  11. Ron says

    Yes, height is often associated with strength and power but that is not always the case, even when there is a male vs. a female. I was a tall skinny guy (I am still tall and skinny) when I met a short fat girl who became my girlfriend. I stood 6-foot-1 at 125 pounds. Very tall and very skinny!!! She stood 4-foot-11 at 190 pounds. Very short and very fat. AND VERY STRONG (which I soon found out!!!). One day, early in our relationship, we decided to lift weights in my apartment. While she was watching me, I grabbed a big heavy (fully-loaded) barbell from the floor. I tried to lift it over my head. I COULDN’T EVEN GET IT ABOVE MY THIGHS!!! Then came her turn. While I was watching her, she grabbed that big heavy barbell and, while I continued to watch her, she easily lifted it RIGHT UP OVER HER HEAD!!! She easily saw that I was embarrassed losing to her because of my being a male and her being a female and also because I stood way taller than she did (towering over her BY MORE THAN A FOOT!!!) so she walked over to me where we both stood in front of each other and then I was looking way down at her while she was looking way up at me when she and I suddenly began kissing each other tenderly and passionately (our first kiss as girlfriend and boyfriend). My embarrassment vanished right there on the spot!!! I realized that she was way bigger and stronger than I was even though I towered way over her and I had no problem accepting that (especially after she and I began kissing each other!!!).

  12. Drea says

    Interesting article although not fully accurate. At one point they mention that around 5’5 is considered to be tall. I’m that exact height and I’m no where near being tall. I’m not short either. It depends on the country from where you are from but I know in the U.S between 5’4 and 5’6 is just about average, 5’5 being exactly in between. There always seems to be debates about tall and short girls, but everyone seems to forget about the in between girls.

  13. Anonymous says

    I miss being called cute, all I do is intimidate men. The boy I have been obsessed with for months said I am too tall for him even though he is 5’11” and I am 5’5″. I am too short to model but to tall to attract anyone I like. When I was in middle school I was 5’4″ and everyone thought I was short and now I’m like a monster to everyone.

    • Drea says

      I’m assuming this guys on the shorter side? 5 foot 5 inches is certainly not tall. It’s perfectly average. Between 5’4 and 5’6 is the average height on a scale for females, everything else is shorter or taller. Do not get discouraged and love yourself for who you are. Obviously if some douche bag guy can’t appreciate you for who you are than he doesn’t deserve you and you can do a hell of a lot better girl!

    • Anonymous says

      I’m in middle school and I’m 6’1. the guy that I like is like 6’2, and he thinks I’m too tall for him.

    • Anonymous says

      GTFO try telling that to the girls that are 5′ 10″ and up lol I’m a 6 foot tall girl

  14. georgia says

    I’m 14 and 5’5, its actually tall in my country. Asians don’t tend to be tall. I am NBSB, so idk why tall guys in my school likes short girls. I even asked my crush, also taller than me (well actually, a boy whom I like for 2 yrs and secretly wished that he is my boyfie, and dont forget that I’ve got like 10 pics of him pinned on my bedroom wall) which he prefers, and you know what he said? — “Louisa is my crush. You know the pretty girl short and stuff. I really don’t know but I think short girls are cute ya’ know? Unlike you.. but hey you’re pretty too hahaha bla bla bla” Ughh, sometimes I hate that I’m tall


      5’5 is not tall or short so you have the best of both worlds, not towering for men but you have good length legs

  15. Anonymous says

    I’m 15 and just barely 5’1. To me, any guy taller than me by a few inches is tall and amazing. Maybe guys like women SHORTER than them, not SHORT women?

  16. Medusa says

    I also forgot to say that (in my opinion) I think clothes look better on us because our arms and legs are longer, therefore outfits look nice and make us look like models. I’ve seen that men like long legs in a skirt or dresses. I was sitting on a train once and a few guys sitting across just kept staring at my legs because they were longer than other peoples. 😀 I can wear 1 inch wedges in the summer and just that alone will get me even more attenion. :) I’ve never felt ashamed about my height. Kids used to bully me in school about it, but when I got out, it all changed. People draw to me like a magnet does on a fridge. Lol. Besides all the other things, I like the power I get that comes with being taller. I just never liked being seen as cute, or vulnerable, or like someone who constantly needs help. I like when people call me beautiful, or lovely, or pretty over cute, which they do. I haven’t been called cute since I was under 10. But to each his own. People might also be intimidiated, which is funny but also annoying. I wish they weren’t but it comes with the territory. Has any taller women noticed guys seem to be competitive with you as well? Like they have something to prove to you? I have noticed that.. I will also conclude that being a tall woman weeds out shallow insecure men easily, which is an important bonus that most don’t realize will play a good role in finding a boyfriend/husband be it he’s shorter or taller. You’ll notice it real quick. So be happy for that reason at least if you are tall. Short women might not find out til much later…and those shallow and/or insecure men might find other issues to harp on about.

    • Jasmine says

      I could not agree with you more, I’m 5″11 (my measurements are 34-25-38) and frequently get approached by men in the street saying hello, asking how I am and telling me how attractive I am or how long my legs are. But the thing is I am only 16, and most of these men are at least 25, so my message to any girls who are still in school and struggling with their height is: just wait until you leave because the older guys will literally be all over you. Over the past 3 years I have found it really difficult to come to terms with my height because I am taller than a lot of guys in my year and all of my shorter, bigger boobed, cute friends used to get soooo much more attention than me. I basically just felt like the awkward, lanky girl that hung out with them. But then I started to figure out which clothes suited me best, how to wear my hair nicely, how to walk with confidence and how to flaunt my assets (which pretty much just consists of my long legs and tiny waist), plus all of the guys grew at least 5 inches. And that’s when everyone suddenly started telling me how ‘stunning’ I am and how I should be a model and that all the guys are obsessed with me. So, I’m telling you, it really is all down to the way you carry and present yourself. I’m not saying you should go and slap on layers of make up and wear slutty clothes, because that’s literally the opposite of what I do, but it really will help if you walk confidently i.e don’t slouch and wear clothes that you feel comfortable and attractive in. But remember, if guys continue to ignore you, just hold onto the fact that when school ends, you will have the opportunity to completely rebuild yourself without fearing what all those judgemental teenagers think of you. I am very lucky in the sense that i figured out what looks work best for me quite early on, but before that I really was miserable. I still have days where I feel incredibly insecure about my height because of one tiny comment I overheard someone say or because I see a really nice dress that I know i can’t wear because I don’t have the really curvy body for it. And on those days i really do feel awful about myself and just want to shrink into a ball. But i also have days where i feel like my height gives me so much security and confidence.

    • Anonymous says

      Youre just saying that because youre tall…..face it people have preferences, some like short more than tall, and some like the other way around. Maybe one day you will find a guy that wont care about your height.

    • Anonymous says

      Being tall can be helpful because you don’t have to put up with a lot of peoples crap. A few shorter friends of mine always have the fear of being attacked or mugged or bullied, and I’m don’t really have that fear because people tend to avoid messing with me because I’m naturally intimidating. It doesn’t really help you in the friend department because I have noticed that many other girls have avoided talking to me because they think I’m scary.
      People have the tendency to judge a book by its cover, or in this case by it’s height. Sometimes it works to your advantage, and sometimes it doesn’t.

  17. Medusa says

    I’m 5’11” and despite the fact that a lot of people say tall women aren’t desirable to most – I find what people say online is not reality for myself. I get attention from men more so then my shorter counterparts….wherever I go…and sometimes it’s even annoying. I see men giving me “the look” [when they stare at me like they either like me or just want one night with me] and some women will just stare at me like tall women aren’t common, even though they are. Some women have even been mean to me for no reason when I was really nice towards them, and I take that as a sign of jealously/self esteem issues, and avoid those people. I love being tall because even though I like blending in with the crowd sometimes, it’s nice to be noticed and ogled like a little celebrity when you go out. I was even surprised at the amount of tall men who noticed me more than shorter men. Soon as a tall guy notices me it’s like they are shocked to see a girl near their height, but at the same time they seem to like it. The coolest man to date who I got attention from was this 6’0″ muscular guy with a tasteful tattoo on his lower arm. His hair was a little longer (probably shoulder length) but braided back, and his skin complexion was a nice bronzed color, plus he had these big dark brown eyes that stared with intensity at me. He’s latin. :) I haven’t thought about any other guy since. The thing I love most about being tall is that I can command attention easily, and I don’t have to be worried about being seen as weak, and people not taking me seriously…plus we may get paid more in the workplace.

    • Anonymous says

      Dont be mad that short, petite women are getting the men quicker. It not their fault men want them and average size women (waves hand) in general. There are pros and cons for everything. Yea smaller women might be considered cuter, vulnerable, and “weak” but hey many men like that. It brings out their protective instincts. Men love being the big, tall strong ones in the relationship. But i dont blame them after all those are masculine traits..

    • Anonymous says

      Agh tall women just sound perfect I’m 18 years old and I’m 5’2 female! I’m very insecure about my height I feel like I don’t get taken seriously and that if I was taller I’d look even better :/ everyone tells me I should be a VS Model if I was taller and I really wish I could too! I haven’t found how to embrace my height, hopefully one day I will but whenever I see a girl who’s taller then me I feel like crap they look so confident and beautiful. I mean I know I’m a very attractive girl but just my height makes me think otherwise. My bf said to his sister one time that he would never date a short girl BC his mom is short (4’9) & that just makes me feel like I’m not good enough. My bf is 5’10

    • Medusa says

      I’d say it’s on the tall side, although not really that tall, but it’s considered a great height for a girl. Most guys are around your height or taller.

    • Anonymous says

      I would definitely say so. I’m 5’7 and used to love wearing heels but my bf now is 5’11 and I stick to low heels and flats now because I don’t want to be taller than him. He says he doesn’t care and I know I shouldn’t either but I just can’t. There are about 15 beautiful pair of heels I haven’t worn in a long time because I never really have an ocassion to. Heels just look so much cuter on short girls but I’m coming to terms with and thanks to some of the comments, I’m going to try to figure out and wear what works naturally for me and for my height.

  18. Girl7171 says

    Im 5’3″ and in my country avg height of women is 5’1 something, so short means below 5′ so only 3-4 girls are taller than me in my class. In contrast guyz seem to be vry tall, most of them are above 5’8 and lot of them are above 6′.

  19. Tyishanna Holder says

    hi everyone…. im 15 and im 5’8…..i hated my height so much and wished i were shorter because all my friends were shorter an they had no problem getting boyfriends….i however was always taller than most boys my age an never had a boyfriend…i wa always insecure about it an didnt considere myself beautiful… i change the way i look at myself because if i dont love myself the way i am then who will??…..ive learned to love myself the way i am and be proud in my own skin…an some day in d future i would find the ONE!!

  20. Jonathan says

    I’m a shorter than average guy, and i would do anything to be with a woman who is taller than me.

    however, there is something to be said for a well proportioned, but miniature lady – rappers don’t call em shawties for nothin. a smaller woman is more easily perceived as a plaything, and what sane guy doesn’t like a new toy to play with?especially if she wants to play with him..

  21. anya says

    I can say the fertility/puberty thing was not true for me. I am almost 6ft, and i started my period when i was 11. Which means i have been dealing with aunt flo and her montlhy visits 10 years now. Ugh.

    As a tall woman, I prefer tall men. I had a shorter boyfriend once and my oh my how they laughed :-( and my man who was 6’7 and a rugby player I still dream about. Even if he was a turd! Hahah.

    • jana says

      I have to agree with you! I am 15 and 5ft and have barely grown since i was 12 however mother nature made sure she blessed me each month for the past 4yrs haha. Puberty hasn’t been good to me i seem to blessed with all the teenage curses but unfortunately have barely grown for years, just my luck!!

  22. js says

    I’m between 5.1 and 5.2 and my boy friend is 6.2. He is very good looking too, but he’s always been dating short girls. Two if his recent ex’s where shorter than me.

    He’s also not into skinny girls. I sometimes wonder why he’s not into tall girls? He likes short curvy women with long hair :)

  23. Belle says

    To be honest, i think no guy likes shorter girls. They just like girls shortER then them, so it often gets mistaken. Because honestly who doesnt want a tall, long legged, petite, graceful feminine woman as long as they are shorter than the man. I for one if i was a man wouldnt want a short chunky child with stumpy thunder thigh legs for a girlfriend.

    • Anonymous says

      I am a average height man and have no hang ups at all about height, but as a builder and regular pub goer a lot of chat with the lads is about girls and whilst some men prefer tall girls and some prefer small it is easy to notice that smaller petite pretty girls get far more attention than their counterparts and we definitely talk about them more. sorry to burst the bubble of the taller girls but whilst you are very desirable to a lot of men most of us prefer the attractive petite lady.

    • Anonymous says

      Do you know the definition of petite? petite means short AND skinny. So you cant be tall and petite? that doesnt make sense…. And yes plenty of men love short, petite women as much as they like tall long legged women.

  24. Angelguts says

    I thought the bit about tall girls getting periods later was off. Granted I’m sure it may be true statically but, on my own anecdotal basis, I got mine at 11 (5’10 and 3/4″over here)*. Also I’m not sure the when you get your period thing as being relevant since most all women (assuming no problems) have most likely started menstruating by 16.

    *Sidebar: I’ve made the observation that if I was male I’d probably just round my height up to 5’11”. As a female I usually round that down to 5’10”. Heck, I’ve had men try and say i must be taller in an effort to fudge their own heights.

    When i was younger, i did wish I was shorter because shorter girls sometimes seem to be doted on more by society (seen as helpless) whereas my height must convey an air of competence and just not needing assistance. But I’m sure the big drawback for shorter women or even women of average height is they probably feel it as more being patronized by men rather than pampering.

    I also feel my height has put me outside normal gender roles in the sense that I never got the memo that I was supposed to hide my intelligence/knowledge/defer to the man’s opinion if I either knew better or disagreed. In that regard I know my personality is a bit off putting for that reason and can make men feel uncomfortable. But i encountered enough men (after high school) who found that alluring enough so I never saw the need to change.

    I will say though to any woman that the only really strange but true fact in this world is whether tall or short, fat or thin, big chest or small, smart or dumb, normal or abnormal, there is someone who will find it to be a turn on.

    • Anonymous says

      I think it does happen though. I mean I’m 17, 5’11” and I started my period not too long ago.

  25. Anonymous says

    I’m 15 and I’m 6’1 tall with a VERY athletic build (broad shoulders, 6’5 armspan, long legs with “thunder thighs”, and practically no chest) and weigh 160 lbs.
    I’m going to be a sophomore this coming year and all of the boys still haven’t completely matured so I’m still tied for the tallest kid in my grade (but hopefully that will change over the summer).
    But I wouldn’t be the same person I am today if I wasn’t tall.
    When I was young I was always tall (I was 4’11 in third grade and I grew eight inches in a year, resulting in me being 5’7 in FOURTH GRADE) so people generally thought I was older, making me more mature than all my friends. Even to this day I’m more mature than everyone in my grade, so the majority of my friends are older than me. Which, gives me plenty of oppurtunities to hang out (and date) older guys. So that is one plus to being tall.
    And tall girls have advantages in almost every sport, except maybe horse racing or gymnastics. I play basketball, swim team, tack & field, and soccer. So, the volleyball coach is always hounding me to play. But, because I grew that eight inches in a year, I have horrible knee problems (I’ve dislocated both knees at least three times, have arthrits in both knees, have this weird bone inflamation/fluid pouch below my left knee, and have had surgery twice on my right knee) and playing volleyball probably wouldn’t benefit me in the long run. So that’s a downside to being tall.
    Another downside to being tall though is with my height, comes my huge feet and hands. My fingers are really long and my middle finger alone is (I kid you not) 5 inches long, so that makes holding hands awkward. I also wear a size 14 shoe but I’m not going to go too much into that other than that I wear a lot of Men’s shoes and have to do a lot of special ordering.
    So, there’s a lot of good things and bad things about being tall, but no matter your height, you should be confident and make it work.

  26. Pixie says

    I’m 5’7″ and my boyfriend is 5’8″. Before me he only dated shorter girls, anything 5’3″ and below. He said he was attracted to shorter girls but he never made any of them his girlfriend, I’m his first and only real girlfriend. So, maybe it really doesn’t matter what height someone is. Maybe guys just like the girl for who she is, not her height. I know I personally don’t care how tall or short a guy is. The shortest guy I’ve ever dated was 5’4″ and the tallest was 6’4″. In my opinion, some positions were very uncomfortable with a taller guy. But when I was younger I used to wish I was shorter because I always thought short girls were cuter. Now I’m happy with myself and height.

    • Genevieve says

      I think we all wish we were different in some way. I’m 4’11 and always wanted to be tall. Now I finally am happy with myself now that I’m 22. We all just have to work with what weve got. :)

  27. Max says

    Part of the height issue between men and women may also be partially mathematical. 2/3rds of the male population are 5’8 (173cm) or taller, and 2/3rds of the female population are 5’7 (170cm) or shorter. In a random pairing, most of the couplings would have a taller man and a shorter woman. I’m not saying the sociological or psychological factors don’t contribute, but I do think the mathematical reasoning should not be ignored.

  28. Lilly says

    You can’t change your height, but you can change your perspective.

    I’m seeing comments from tall women that say they have trouble attracting any men, then comments from other tall women saying they get a lots of attention. Perhaps height isn’t the sole reason a man would or wouldn’t be attracted to you? There are many short women who have trouble attracting men, too. And then there are tall men who have trouble attracting women. And short men who get lots of girlfriends.

    If you think height is the only thing you having going for you, or against you, you need a closer look in the mirror. I’m not just referring to your appearance.

    Btw, I’m a 5’6 woman, so I don’t know what it’s like to be on the extreme ends of the height spectrum. I haven’t had the best luck with men because of my shy, sometimes awkard personality. The current guy I’m dating says he likes that I’m skinny. No mention of my height, though.

    Not saying “height doesn’t matter”, but if you find yourself being rejected, you can’t simply blaim your height. Lots of tall women and short men have successful relationships.

    Anyway, why would you want to be constantly oogled by creeps? A successful relationship is not a shallow one.

  29. Heavenly says

    Hey,I think height has little to do with it, it’s all about who’s attractive and who’s not. Short girls have an easier time being attractive cause their bodies don’t need as much fuel to keep going at a healthy rate so we can eat less and not get hungry fast.

    Taller girls have an easy time staying thin even when eating much so that could make them more attractive for men. Short or skinny guys would probably like tall women. I also see lots of white men go for tall women so maybe it’s a culture thing. Who knows, I’m not tall and I wouldn’t know if they have it hard in life.

  30. efe says

    it’s all right . I am taller than my age and tall and short boys go crazy for me so being tall is very cool.

  31. Tall says

    As a tall girl, I would like to explain to the short girls the reason for other tall girls’comments in here- No one is trying to be mean to you guys. We are trying to boost the confidence of that insecure 6′ reading this. I have been made fun of by countless people (5’4″ and under, mind you) for being tall. I’ve been called a freak, a giant, you name it. We are merely trying to justify to the other girls out there that being tall is wonderful. When short girls get in a group, they insult me, but individually, they all admit they wished they looked like me. The most popular girl in my grade even said how cool it is to be tall and she wished she were my height. This just goes to show you that even the girl it seems everyone wants has insecurities. Some of old so called “close friends” have made rude comments about my height being less than feminine and weird. This one girl is very competitive with me in particular. She was trying to take a picture of something and I was standing nearby, assuming I was out of frame, and she turned to me and snapped “ya know what, you don’t have to stand there like a freaking model!” The girls who make the rude comments are most likely just jealous. Some short girls really just think that short girls are more attractive, which is fine. But the ones who go out of their way are probably insecure about something with themselves. Don’t listen to them. I am 5’10”, and the guy I like is 5’8″, and let me tell you, he is amazing. He’s witty, athletic, smart, RESPECTS WOMEN (very old-fashioned), and a very compassionate person. Well at our junior prom, I was wearing a very figure flattering cocktail dress with stilettos (yup) and he was singing along to the song that was playing. When he turned around and saw me, he stopped singing, his jaw dropped ever so slightly and he looked me up and down quite obviously (not in a pervy way, though). He started blushing and smiling at me, and he kept coming near me trying to dance quite a few times that night. In other words, if they like you, they won’t care about your height. If your are insecure, guys will read that. Keep your head held high, and learn to embrace what you were given. :) xoxo

    • Anonymous says

      I am 17 and 5’9 and reading that just made me feel so much better about myself! I’ve never viewed it in that way! So thanks! Xo

    • Anonymous says

      You are awesome! Im 6foot 140 pounds and love my height. Slim trim and attractive! I have short friends that are beautiful and very few tall ones! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
      I love your perspective!

    • Kiki says

      I’m 5’8, slim hourglass with a slight athletic build (meaning a slightly defined shoulders and a bigger shoe size). I definitely stand out in a crowd, it’s both good and bad depending on my mood. There are days when I just want to be unnoticed, I play down my assets by wearing flats and slightly less pretty clothes, even to the point of having that trendy tomboy style that’s going on with a lot of thin fashion girls. On the other side, when I am in the mood to look like a bombshell, it is quite possible. Clothes hang better, it’s easier to shop. Jeans are cut in better proportions, can play with shapes and forms, trends, can even pull off the flat shoes with pencil skirt pretty well, etc.
      I understand the pain tall girls go through at times, like you have to hunch a little bit when taking photos with petite friends, wearing flats to slightly even out the obvious height difference in the group. It sucks to conform to such ideals but somehow it’s those little bends we do to fit in. I’m only 29 and I don’t have a problem attracting men, on the contrary I’ve realized a lot of guys are intrigued by a tall lady who carries herself pretty well, and can pull off a totally different attitude than those damsels in distress kind. I’m not saying being tall is better than being a short/petite girl. I’m sure there are guys into tall girls, or so I hope it’s more of the personality and the kind of person the lady is than her physical attributes that dictates a man’s interest for a lady.
      .. And what better way to celebrate this given height than show the world that the view up there (especially in stilettos) is way better. Rockin’ my 4’5 inch heels and I won’t be sorry for it!

    • Anonymous says

      You are very hypocrite, so i guess its ok to be downright rude to smaller girls because the smaller girl were mean to you and they desrve it? right…. Everybody gets their fare share of hate. And let me just say smaller women get bullied too, if anything by a larger scale than taller women. You want to know by who? by the media. The media has made sure to put tall, blonde, model type figures in higher pedestal than shorter, “darker” women. Making us feel like we are not beautiful or feminine enough. Talk about being constantly bullied. And no im not trying to downplay the harrasment you received. Its wrong no matter what and it shouldnt be tolerated. But dont try to make it seem like taller women have it harder than smaller women because its clearly not the case here.

    • Anonymous says

      You’re perspective is awesome! I’m not really considered tall or short but more in-between(5’5) to be exact, but never the less whatever height the way you think is the way more people, both men and women should think. Confidence is the most attractive trait anyone can have! :)

    • TallGirlOverHere says

      I love your attitude! 😀 I’m 5ft 10in but I’m only 14 yrs old :( Reading all these comments really made me feel better about myself but I don’t feel like I’m getting that much attention. Actually, shorter girls get the spotlight (even if media is bullying shorter women which I’m disagreeing with). Lol media is just making beautiful people famous. Not all the tall girls are ”perfect” as you see on your TV. Also, my friends often make fun of my height and toll me that I’ll never be able to wear heels or find boyfriend. My crush is shorter than me and once he mentioned how tall I am and how awkward it is to him… but he also said it’s sometimes good to have a tall girlfriend because she may look like a model. But I’m NOT a freaking model! My face is pale and not ”cute” at all. And my imperfect skinny body… urgh. I saw many pictures with a skinny model and boobed, a little bit fat short girl and guys comment how skinny is shit… So I tried to eat more, to workout and build muscles… but nothing works! It’s so much easier to get ‘curves’ if you’re short and the worst of all is fitting in clothes. Let’s imagine this situation: you see a pretty girl with those amazing jeans or shirt and the next day you see them in one store… you want to try them, but guess what! There’s no your freaking size!!! Same thing with shoes… My younger sister gets all the beautiful clothes I want but can’t fit in. You may feel confident with who you are, but I don’t. I certainly don’t blame my height for everything, but if I was just a little bit shorter… :(

    • Anonymous says

      I’m 15 and I’m 5’9. I’m a freshman and the guys are short and stuff like 5’7 or 5’8 and the girls are all like 5’2 and there are a lot who are tall, but the ones with boyfriends are under 5’5. Reading your comment makes me feel more confident about myself. When I wear heels I’m 6′ and I’m self conscious. This is embarrassing but my mom says, “Why not wear heals, strut in there with your heels like a model and just be confident. When you get a date to the dance then worry about the height. But while you’re single, be proud.” I try to take in her advice but it’s kind of hard.

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