Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who is the best man of them all?
On first blush, it is difficult to resist the men who look like Adonis. They are tall, dark, handsome, look great in both Speedos and a tux, and have abs that are to die for.
But ladies, remember this, the looks fade very quickly.
Once Adonis gets a 9-5 job, and settles into middle age, things will quickly begin to change. He will spend all his free time sitting on the couch, watching sports while eating wings and drinking beer. The once six-pack abs will quickly become a single large keg.
His hair will thin, his butt will sag, and soon all you will be left with are your tarnished dreams and faded wedding pictures.
If Adonis is not our Prince Charming, then who is?
The best men to marry are the ones who treat you well, have great financial potential, as well as a fun and compatible personality – in that order.
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Best Men to Marry 1
Men who treat you well.
You want to find a man who appreciates you, and who will put you above everything else, even himself. You want to find a man who is willing to share the house chores, willing to make home coffee for you in the morning, and willing to be a better man for you, so that you can hang-out online and write silly articles about who are the best men to marry!
Avoid the control freak at all costs.
If a man wants to control little things like which restaurant you go to, what you order for dinner, what music you listen to in the car, then it is time to take that emergency phone call and run like hell.
If you think that you can change a control freak, then you are sadly mistaken. Control freaks will only want to control you – not the other way around. Men with control disorders will often become verbally or physically abusive to get what they want.
Avoid Narcissus.
Narcissistic men focus all their attention on themselves and have very little left over for anything else. They will constantly expect you to worship them as they worship themselves. If you get busy and miss a day or two of worship, your Narcissus will likely look for worship somewhere else.
Bad boys sound like a lot of fun in the pages of a romance novel and indeed they can be fun to date.
However, marrying one will get old after about 10 minutes. A marriage is about give and take, and bad boys by definition only know how to take.
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Men who are financially sound.
You may think that this is very mercenary of me and totally unromantic, but there is nothing romantic about not having enough money to buy food, or pay the rent. There is nothing romantic about not having furniture and living out of a box with five kids and another one in the oven.
Call me crazy and unromantic, but I do like having a roof over my head, access to food and water, and yes cable television!
Who are these rich men?
According to CNBC, the richest men of 2009 can be found in the health profession. Didn’t your mother always tell you to marry a doctor? Well, sometimes your mom is right.
And it is not just the doctors and surgeons. Dentists, podiatrists, pediatricians, and psychiatrists all earn well over $100,000 US per year. Here are the top five paying professions –
- Surgeons,
- Anesthesiologists,
- Orthodontists (time to get some braces!),
- Obstetricians & Gynecologists ,
- Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeons.
All these professionals earn close to an average of $200,000 US per year.
If doctors are not your thing, then there are several other possible alternatives – men of technology, men of science, men of numbers (actuaries), and men of law are also in the top 25 highest paying professions.
In summary stick to the science and math nerds and you should do well.
If you are in high school, you might want to start cultivating your contacts right now. There are many advantages to starting early –
- Science and math nerds are really easy to land. After all, they are probably the least popular kids in high school. However, think in the long-term. When they become doctors and scientists, the cheerleaders will be married to fat jocks who work for your science nerd.
- It is good to have friends with money. Even if you decide not to marry your high school nerd friends, they will be forever grateful to you for being a pal in those difficult high school years. Later on, they can introduce you to their other rich friends.
- It is good to have a doctor, lawyer, or scientist friend in your back pocket. You never know when you might need one.
Now some of you modern, assertive women may think to yourself – I don’t need a man with money, I can make my own money. True – but then you will have little time to enjoy it. Also, I am allergic to blood, gore, and guts, so for me, at least, medical school is definitely not an option.
Here are some tips on how to attract men and keep them devoted.
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Men with a compatible personality.
Many women look for men who are witty, humorous, interesting, fun, and extremely clever. All these are good to have, but the most important thing of all is to find a man who is compatible with you.
Compatibility may sound boring and really like what your mom would say but hey, we have already established that your mom is sometimes right – probably more often than you would want to admit.
When you live with someone every day, sleep with him, wake up with him, brush your teeth with him, constant jokes can get annoying, and witty one-liners will quickly begin to grate on your nerves.
Really you want a man who will be there with you to take care of business, and who can complement your weaknesses with his strengths.
You want someone whom you can talk to about anything and everything. You want someone you will have fun with doing things that you both enjoy. You want someone that is compatible.
I suppose I could use the term ‘soul-mate’ to make compatible sound more romantic, but really, storybook romance is highly over-rated.
Probably good advice for women but doesn’t honesty count for anything these days. A good partner could be totally opposite [its said opposites attract], the important thing is, they accept you as you are and not try to change you. If you need to change you will do it on your own, eventually.
Wow you have very good advice. hopefully following your advices will help me find my man 🙂 and forget about my ex.
Thanks Suzel. Yeah getting over an ex can be difficult. It took me a long time to get over my first love. The best way is to keep very busy, try out new things, and meet new people.
I quickly forgot about the ex after I went on an internship and met lots of interesting new people. 🙂
Hey,
Not sure how I came across your site but you have described my boyf. From our first date, up until this very second he has been a true dream come true.. We live in reality and deal with issues that life brings along- with that I can say we’ve never known a happiness of this depth..He is my soulmate- couldnt b more compatible.. Can’t wait to marry eachother- only waiting so that our families don’t freak out lol… I will spend my life trying to fully express my love to him in any way I can. Great site!!
I’m dating someone like that now but it’s not exciting. We are SO compatable that it’s ho-hum. I don’t want to spend my life ho-hum.
Hello blue.lotus,
I think it is good to have a balance of exciting and compatible. I have had relationships with men who are totally exciting, but they usually turn out to be self-centered and not very dependable.
Also, relationships will always be most interesting in the beginning when you are learning about each other and after a time, it will naturally become less exciting. It takes some work from both parties to keep things new and interesting.
Serial monogamy or open relationships are other ways that people deal with this issue. But they have their own challenges.
I love this hub. women are romantic but we have to be realistic too if we want to choose someone to marry. it’s fun to have a handsome boy friend but marry a handsome man we have to be aware all the time..he…he…I think the most important think it’s personality, his job, psychally, his unique
I love this article! I wanna marry a man like that. The virtual man was a smart choice
lol Bre, I like the virtual man best as well. Waiting for that holodeck technology …
I’m the perfect guy marry with me
This is good advice. Having someone who treats you well, with whom you are compatible, who makes you feel good about yourself—sounds optimum to me. Thanks for the fine Hub. I enjoyed it.
Thanks James! Happy you enjoyed the hub 🙂
Well, sure a man should have an income…but the woman should not expect him to provide everything.Truly I hate how the trait “finacially successful” is always heaped onto us. We do not live in victorian England. Women CAN work too.
In the end it should be 50/50. I don’t want to become a labor mule and cash crop to any female, no matter how good looking or intelligent she is.
Hello Broken,
I definitely agree that women can work too, but some women just choose to work differently. Some women choose to become housewives, others work on finding a rich man, etc. It all depends on the woman – and a woman with a career is not ‘better’ than a woman without one.
As you say, we live in modern times and women can choose whichever strategy they wish to make a comfortable living.
“In the end it should be 50/50.”
That is definitely a choice that one can make. However, not everyone will make that same choice 🙂
Hi Aya! I really enjoyed reading this hub. I think you are right on a number of points.
Oh, Aya. I’m too fragile to read this right now. I’m gonna go read one of the chick ones.
lol CR – no way! Super Fire Boy is definitely *the* man to marry – but they are very rare and difficult to find.
You have great main points! I would come at them a little differently, but I different life experience; for example, he doesn’t have to be rich to be financially sound — look for a good work ethic and a willingness to do what ever job needs to be done. I have seen several men who have the capacity to make over $250,000/year, loose there homes, because they were unwilling to take a job that paid less.
I’m single, so you know I really enjoyed and received a lot of valuable info. Thanks!
LOL I came here with the intention to wirte something like “The best man to marry is me!” – yet I see I am late to the party. Anyway, some have several wives, others can have several husbands 😉
Several husbands sound like a great idea – one can be the cook, another the rich guy, and yet another the compatible guy. And of course *you* can be the bad boy 😉
From the title I was hoping you were writing about me! … Darn!
Nice hub. Please remember that look is not everything. Love conquers all. With love and fear of God, all other things shall be added unto you.
should of wrote this long ago man
LOL – I know – I wish I knew this in high school!
Marry me Aya ; )
Captain! Is that a proposal? Where is my large diamond ring?
In any case you can’t marry – all your other women would be totally crushed. They would all want to have duels with me to get you back! 🙂
hey great hub dear. I do agree with you on most of your points. However, I think love tends to be so blind that before we know it, the ring is on the finger and the rose coloured glasses come off too late.No wonder divorce rates are so high.
I have been married 25 years…didnt really look at compatibility or wealth or looks or anything…just fell in love 😛 Luckily it all worked for us.
Thanks Diana – You are very lucky to marry for love and get it right the first time! 🙂
Pretty sound advce I say. And whom did you marry?