Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who is the best man of them all?
On first blush, it is difficult to resist the men who look like Adonis. They are tall, dark, handsome, look great in both Speedos and a tux, and have abs that are to die for.
But ladies, remember this, the looks fade very quickly.
Once Adonis gets a 9-5 job, and settles into middle age, things will quickly begin to change. He will spend all his free time sitting on the couch, watching sports while eating wings and drinking beer. The once six-pack abs will quickly become a single large keg.
His hair will thin, his butt will sag, and soon all you will be left with are your tarnished dreams and faded wedding pictures.
If Adonis is not our Prince Charming, then who is?
The best men to marry are the ones who treat you well, have great financial potential, as well as a fun and compatible personality – in that order.
Best Men to Marry 1
Men who treat you well.
You want to find a man who appreciates you, and who will put you above everything else, even himself. You want to find a man who is willing to share the house chores, willing to make home coffee for you in the morning, and willing to be a better man for you, so that you can hang-out online and write silly articles about who are the best men to marry!
Avoid the control freak at all costs.
If a man wants to control little things like which restaurant you go to, what you order for dinner, what music you listen to in the car, then it is time to take that emergency phone call and run like hell.
If you think that you can change a control freak, then you are sadly mistaken. Control freaks will only want to control you – not the other way around. Men with control disorders will often become verbally or physically abusive to get what they want.
Narcissistic men focus all their attention on themselves and have very little left over for anything else. They will constantly expect you to worship them as they worship themselves. If you get busy and miss a day or two of worship, your Narcissus will likely look for worship somewhere else.
Bad boys sound like a lot of fun in the pages of a romance novel and indeed they can be fun to date.
However, marrying one will get old after about 10 minutes. A marriage is about give and take, and bad boys by definition only know how to take.
Best Men to Marry 2
Men who are financially sound.
You may think that this is very mercenary of me and totally unromantic, but there is nothing romantic about not having enough money to buy food, or pay the rent. There is nothing romantic about not having furniture and living out of a box with five kids and another one in the oven.
Call me crazy and unromantic, but I do like having a roof over my head, access to food and water, and yes cable television!
Who are these rich men?
According to CNBC, the richest men of 2009 can be found in the health profession. Didn’t your mother always tell you to marry a doctor? Well, sometimes your mom is right.
And it is not just the doctors and surgeons. Dentists, podiatrists, pediatricians, and psychiatrists all earn well over $100,000 US per year. Here are the top five paying professions –
- Orthodontists (time to get some braces!),
- Obstetricians & Gynecologists ,
- Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeons.
All these professionals earn close to an average of $200,000 US per year.
If doctors are not your thing, then there are several other possible alternatives – men of technology, men of science, men of numbers (actuaries), and men of law are also in the top 25 highest paying professions.
In summary stick to the science and math nerds and you should do well.
If you are in high school, you might want to start cultivating your contacts right now. There are many advantages to starting early –
- Science and math nerds are really easy to land. After all, they are probably the least popular kids in high school. However, think in the long-term. When they become doctors and scientists, the cheerleaders will be married to fat jocks who work for your science nerd.
- It is good to have friends with money. Even if you decide not to marry your high school nerd friends, they will be forever grateful to you for being a pal in those difficult high school years. Later on, they can introduce you to their other rich friends.
- It is good to have a doctor, lawyer, or scientist friend in your back pocket. You never know when you might need one.
Now some of you modern, assertive women may think to yourself – I don’t need a man with money, I can make my own money. True – but then you will have little time to enjoy it. Also, I am allergic to blood, gore, and guts, so for me, at least, medical school is definitely not an option.
Here are some tips on how to attract men and keep them devoted.
Best Men to Marry 3
Men with a compatible personality.
Many women look for men who are witty, humorous, interesting, fun, and extremely clever. All these are good to have, but the most important thing of all is to find a man who is compatible with you.
Compatibility may sound boring and really like what your mom would say but hey, we have already established that your mom is sometimes right – probably more often than you would want to admit.
When you live with someone every day, sleep with him, wake up with him, brush your teeth with him, constant jokes can get annoying, and witty one-liners will quickly begin to grate on your nerves.
Really you want a man who will be there with you to take care of business, and who can complement your weaknesses with his strengths.
You want someone whom you can talk to about anything and everything. You want someone you will have fun with doing things that you both enjoy. You want someone that is compatible.
I suppose I could use the term ‘soul-mate’ to make compatible sound more romantic, but really, storybook romance is highly over-rated.
This advice about marrying physicians is hilarious. Today, physicians may make good money. Much of it goes to overhead. Student loans are usually huge and take years to pay off. Many women think they are good catches. They often have big egos and affairs. They often marry a woman who will work to put them through med school. Med students do not make big bucks and work long exhausting hours.
When they are finished with the rigors of med school, they often dump the faithful and supportive workhorse wife and marry a trophy wife!
Many surgeons are alcoholics due to the pressure of the job. They sometimes have gambling issues as well. Bye bye $$$$$
Marry someone who is mature and ready for commitment. A person of high moral character, who thinks you are the best thing to come into their life. An ethical, hardworking, financially responsible person who is thoughtful and kind. A gentle sense of humor does not hurt either.
The best advice is to marry an intelligent, hardworking person with good financial
I could not agree more with what you said. I am a female physician and stayed far away from men in my field. It will take a whole lifetime to detail the few attempts at relationships with some of my colleagues. Ladies, my best advice is to empower yourselves and make the $$$ yourself. Do not marry solely for money, trust me you will regret, make sure the guy has the personality to back it up. It will take a saint to treat you the way you deserve when you depend on him financially.
Today I am married to a man who does not make as much but has the personality of an angel and I will not have it any other way.
I am looking for good person who respects god
I have a bf with all the above qualities except fOr the money. Ge love me snd treats me extremely well but It would really help if he had a good income … We can’t even get married and font know what the future holds hit us , makes me upset 🙁
educational and hilarious at d same time i love ur advices!! still cracking me up! 🙂
I dated a narcissist for nearly 4 years, they are compulsive liars and cheats, arrogant, pretentious and madly in love with….themselves, don’t go there, they are very manipulative and clever and can make you believe black is white and vice versa, can put on an act until you are hooked and they know it and then it’s pure and utter hell. Avoid them like the plague (they are usually very charming but once you really get to know them, it’s fake…live with them first if you must but DO NOT marry them, you’ll regret it for eternity especially if you have children, we did and coparenting with them is hell on earth!). Marry a nice boring guy who worships you!
Thanks for sharing your story with us. I too have dated a few narcissistic men, and I agree with you 100% that it is best *not* to go there.
Men who love themselves tend to put their partner down so that they can be the one and the only one to shine.
I totally agree with Jane. I dated a narcissistic for 4 years and looking back I should have left him a month after I met him. Yes, they are irresistibly charming, very manipulative and can make you believe anything. They will even cry when they have to just to make you believe them.
Ladies, please, please don’t let the charm fool you. Listen to the little voice in your heart, it is usually right.
Otherwise, I like: “You want to find a man who appreciates you, and who will put you above everything else, even himself”
That said he has to have invested in himself, which makes him confident in himself and make you admire him. Et voila!