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Why Do Words Hurt & How to Build Emotional Resiliency

by Aya Hajime Leave a Comment

Whatever we may say, unkind words or even words that were not meant unkindly, can often hurt us. Belonging, approval, and being part of a group or tribe is important to us because it enhances our survival. Therefore, we feel good when we get approval from others and feel bad when we get their disapproval. Here, we try to understand why words hurt and how we can build emotional resiliency.

Unconditional Love – What Is It and How to Find It

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Given that we all desire to be loved unconditionally and have an endless store of love to give, why then is unconditional love so hard to do? Why is it so rare? Why do many of us madly search for it and never find it? This article focuses on these interesting questions.

Self-Love and Why We Are So Hard on Ourselves

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Everyone agrees that self-love is one of the main keys to happiness and a good life. However, instead of being kind to ourselves, we berate ourselves for small mistakes and set up impossible to achieve goals. Why is that? Why is self-love so hard to do?

What Is Love and Why Does It Hurt So Much?

by Aya Hajime 2 Comments

Most of us romanticize love. Unfortunately for us, reality is not pure, neither is love, nor fear or suffering. When we aspire to a love that is pure, we inflict more pain and more hurt on ourselves.

Love and Fear – Overcoming Our Wiring for Suffering

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Love and fear duality. Large scary werewolf with redhead fantasy woman conjuring a magical light. Pinup Gothic 3d-art. Daz Studio Iray image.

Love and fear are two of the strongest human emotions and they seem to work in opposition. In this article we explore love and fear and consider how we can resolve this most challenging of life’s dualities.

Love, Loss, Anxiety and Grief

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Love between fantasy girl and lion. Cute armored warrior girl with hood and lion. Fantasy woman pinup 3d-art. Flowers and grass in the background. Daz Studio Iray image.

Love is not simple. As soon as there is love or an attachment, loss enters the picture. Rejecting loss or the pain of loss means rejecting love and the pain of love. They are one and the same.

Your Puny-Pathetic Depression is Not as Good as My Awesome Manly Depression

by Aya Hajime 5 Comments

A closed-heart and judgmental criticism leads to abandonment and depression. Sci-fi girl with light emitting hair screaming with robotic tentacles all around her. Sci-fi fantasy woman art. Daz Studio Iray image.

Depression combined with social comparisons can lead to envy, jealousy, shame, and a closed heart. Ultimately, we end up alone, feeling abandoned, hopeless, betrayed, and more depressed than ever.

Depression – The Terrible D-Word

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Otherworldly angel girl with wings and light in her cupped hands. Fantasy angel woman art. Daz Studio Iray image.

One of the most frustrating and depressing things about depression is that nobody knows what it really is and nobody knows how to “fix” it. This article is about my own experience with depression, and my own framework for understanding it.

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