Whatever we may say, unkind words or even words that were not meant unkindly, can often hurt us. Belonging, approval, and being part of a group or tribe is important to us because it enhances our survival. Therefore, we feel good when we get approval from others and feel bad when we get their disapproval. Here, we try to understand why words hurt and how we can build emotional resiliency.
Given that we all desire to be loved unconditionally and have an endless store of love to give, why then is unconditional love so hard to do? Why is it so rare? Why do many of us madly search for it and never find it? This article focuses on these interesting questions.
Everyone agrees that self-love is one of the main keys to happiness and a good life. However, instead of being kind to ourselves, we berate ourselves for small mistakes and set up impossible to achieve goals. Why is that? Why is self-love so hard to do?
Most of us romanticize love. Unfortunately for us, reality is not pure, neither is love, nor fear or suffering. When we aspire to a love that is pure, we inflict more pain and more hurt on ourselves.