A friend and I were discussing this very issue today while having lunch in an outdoor cafe. We decided to count couples and see how many had a taller man and shorter woman, and how many had a shorter man and taller woman.
There were over 20 couples and all of them was of a taller man with a shorter woman.
This is all fine and good but not very scientific. What does science say about this important issue?
A study by Gillis and Avis in 1980 found that for every 100 couples, only 2 are likely to have a taller woman and shorter man. This suggests that in general, men tend to choose women who are shorter than they are and/or women choose men who are taller than they are.
Source: Short Girl Pictures
Do Men Really Like Shorter Women?
The Gillis and Avis study shows that couples very frequently consist of a taller man together with a shorter woman.
However, this does not necessarily mean that men like shorter girls. In fact, one can argue that the height preference largely comes from the woman’s side. Perhaps the man has no height preference, but simply dates shorter women because shorter women find them more attractive.
To get a more comprehensive view of this tall vs. short women issue, I also examined data from Yahoo Answers!. In particular, I did a search for “tall vs. short women” questions.
Source: http://thinkdrawart.com/short-girl-pictures
I collected a total of 54 responses over about 20 related questions. 29 of the responses were from men, and 25 from women. Of the men,
- 52% said that they like shorter women,
- 31% said that height is not an issue, and
- only 17% said that they like tall women.
These figures seem consistent with the results of my Attractive Women Survey which showed that only 19% of voters like tall women.
Of the women,
- 24% said that men like shorter women,
- 36% said that height is not an issue,
- 40% said that men like tall women.
What is especially interesting about the Yahoo! Answers data is that the woman’s view differs so greatly from the man’s view. Upon greater examination though, we found that of the 10 women who claimed that men prefer taller women, 7 were 5’8”-5’9”, and 1 was 5’5”. Therefore, the relatively small data-set and abnormal height distribution of respondents likely skewed the results.
Data from more rigorous scientific studies also support the hypothesis that men have a preference for shorter women.
“We found that shorter, slimmer females with long slender legs, a curvy figure and larger breasts are more attractive,” said lead researcher Dr William Brown of Brunel University.
~~[The Telegraph]
Nettle’s study on 10,000 people born in the UK in 1958 also showed that –
Shorter women are more likely to have long-term relationships with men, and more likely to have children …
~~[New Scientist]
Why Do Men Like Shorter Women?
Most female models are very tall. Based on this female ideal, it seems that all of us have a preference for the tall, thin, and willowy look.
Therefore, why does the survey and scientific results show that men like shorter women? It seems that here, at least, there is an inconsistency between the media feminine ideal and our real-world feminine ideal.
Certainly tall women have the following advantages –
- Clothes fall and drape more naturally on taller women.
- Tall women can handle extra weight much better than shorter women.
- Tall women get noticed more easily because they naturally stand out in a crowd.
All of these attributes make taller women especially suited for the modelling profession. We want models to stand out from the crowd and we want them to look especially good in a wide range of dress styles.
However, a woman’s greater height becomes more of a liability during mate selection because height is often associated with strength and power. These are traditionally traits that are highly regarded in men but less so in women. A tall woman may therefore have an emasculating effect on a shorter man.
In addition, while women frequently select mates based on strength, success, and power; men are more likely to select mates based on fertility. Nettle further pointed out that –
… girls with late sexual maturity will be taller than those who mature early, because they are growing for longer.
According to Nettle, taller women become fertile at a later date when compared to their shorter counterparts. This could also be another contributing factor to a man’s preference for shorter women.
Don’t Men Want Tall Sons?
What’s strange is that I would like to be taller and I would like my future son(s) to be taller. So it would really make more sense to choose a tall mate with genes that will produce a son who is tall. And yet I’m attracted to short women.
~~[Yahoo! Answers]
Another related factor to this tall vs. short women question is the height of our resulting children. If men do indeed select based on fertility, it seems that part of that fertility question would involve the strength and power of the resulting offspring. As was pointed out in the comment above, selection of a taller woman would increase the chances of producing a taller son.
However, based on all the data it seems that the attributes of our offspring are less significant than the social effects of having a taller female spouse, as well as possible maturity issues as related to height.
Are Tall Women Out of Luck?
Finally, it should also be mentioned that height selection and preference is a relative thing.
Most men like women that are shorter than they are and most women like men that are taller than they are. Men who are over 6 feet tall will have less problems dating tall women because they will still be the taller one in the relationship.
However, the distribution of heights for men and women follow the usual bell-curve shape. This suggests that tall women will have a smaller selection of men to choose from.
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I am a reasonably tall guy 6’2” and some thirty years
later it still bothers me that I didn’t marry a beautiful girl
because she was maybe 6’3 and that seemed tolerable
until those heels and honestly I just couldn’t handle being
towered over at that time no matter how beautiful and
her constantly telling of her love for me and the fact of
her superficial height difference should not be an issue in
our relationship, but it was and I was a jerk about it.
Today my significant other is an age appropriate attractive
woman whose stature is 6’6” and with certain shoe choices
totally humiliates me knows it and finds it a complete turn on, while she taunts and tantalizes her excessive height advantage and even in public were it’s especially hurtful,
but will come back with I always go home with you and I
am dominated by you a shorter man in the bedroom.
I am a 1,87m (6ft1) woman, and I have not ever experienced a lack of potential mates, and have always had numerous short men doting on me, purely because of my height. So this article is not entirely accurate and feels like it was written by a short woman with a height complex
What if it was written by a tall woman? Would she still have a complex or would she be categorized as having something different or nothing at all?
Funny how you assume that this was written by a short woman and then saying that she, therefore, has a height complex. Never would you have assumed that this was written by a tall woman or an average height woman! Really says a lot.
But the thing is that I absolutely do not care if men find me attractive or not. I want people to find me mysterious, aloof, regal and beautiful but cold, somewhat intimidating even. I wanted to be tall, slim and serious looking all my life, yet here I am, 5’3″ tall, round-ish with cutesy facial features and it sucks because the outside doesn’t match with what’s inside.
So many tall women believe that tall men will automatically desire them as potential partners yet never once have I ever seen in any general public communities Tall oppossite sexes in partnerships – largely the reverse. Yet not so much about physical height, the research does not include the importance of overall human stature – the way a woman might have broad shoulders; beautifully carved leg muscles and waist/hip ratios – I sort of fit into this category despite have naturally large DD boobs. I attract both short and very tall men and I am 5ft5 with the extra advantage of facial symmetry and large almond eyes.
Being either short or tall has little to do with male preferences yet far more to do with female self-belief and integrity of her own self without being arrogant and too self-assured. I attract very good looking tall men because I possess the right amount of human qualities they seek in a partner as well as have the page 3 girl look of yesteryear. Tall women of 5ft6+ tend to be far less attractive to tall men of 6ft2 and over simply because they often feel instinctively intimidated/challenged (without) necessarily knowing the very reasons why by tall women. My partner is 6ft5 and the tallest man I have ever been in a relationship and is very protective of me, yet myself had always opted for short/mid height men in the past, even though much taller men sought my affections far more.
So many very tall women do not physically attract equally tall men because their physical prescence often becomes too much of a conflict – whilst there may be some rare instances of tall couples in general, are not the majority (unless wealth comes into play).
The line of questioning is going to skew the results a bit. People can have a preference and still be perfectly willing to date outside of that preference…. I prefer tall, blonde, thin/muscular men. Most of the men I date do not fit that profile. The same can be said for men who prefer short women. A preference does not mean they will stick to that. As a taller woman, who is 5’8″ – 5’9″, I have been pursued by thousands of men. Only 1, I repeat ONE, said he wouldn’t date me in public due to my height. He said how would a little gremlin like him look next to a tall supermodel? He was still head over heels for me and pursued me privately even after he became married to shorter, less attractive woman who he felt good looking next to. Most height based relationships are really controlled by female preferences. Most women will not date a shorter man. Most men will date a taller woman. Even taller men are okay with it. If I put on 4 in heels, I am around 6 feet tall! Men of all heights LOVE it! I actual avoid heels out and about with shorter men due to my own issues that have nothing to do with them. I need a heftier, taller man to help steady me in heels, and I’m worried I’ll break my neck leaning down too far for a kiss. The question did not answer the question well.
Being tall as a woman is a huge challenge (supermodel women) are often left dissapointed and let down by men of any equal stature. I think tall women are more attractive yet I am a shorter female with great body-structure and long arms and fabulous facial/body symmetry, not too self-assured and definitely not into myself as modern women generally are in the 21st century. The perception of men is always far removed from that women in general, including height.
As I previously mentioned, I am a tall skinny man. The average American woman stands 5-foot-3 (vs. my six feet); she weighs 168 pounds (vs. my current 130 pounds); her BMI is 29.8 (vs. my. current 17.6); her waist circumference is 38 inches (vs. my current 28 inches); and she can bench press 80 pounds untrained which means she (the average American woman) is considerably stronger than I am because I am of very slight build in both my upper body and my lower body (I am considerably TOO SKINNY to bench what the average American woman can bench!!!). There are those who would consider the average American woman to be fat. Fat? So, what? I don’t see anything derogatory about the term ‘fat,” anyway. If “fat” (like her) is a derogatory term, then why is “skinny” (like me) not a derogatory term? That constitutes a double standard. It should not be considered any more derogatory for an overweight woman (like her) to be called “a fat woman” than it is for an underweight man (like me) to be called “a skinny man”. Being the tall skinny man that I am, the average American woman, who some would call “a short fat woman” (at 5-foot-3), is exactly the type of woman I go for. And I let such a woman know it!!! That is why, as a rule (exceptions notwithstanding), my girlfriends were not above 5-foot 3 (short and sexy!!!) and were at least 165 pounds (big and strong!!!) who could easily bench more than I could bench. A woman like the average American woman knows that her being bigger and stronger than I am, while being considerably shorter than I am, doesn’t make me any less of a man simply due to my being smaller in size than she is. And (thank goodness for me!!!) there is, indeed, the average American woman who is short (in the 5-foot-3 range), who is sexy (yes indeed!!!), and who is big and strong (in the 165+ pound range), who prefers a skinny man like me who is quite a bit taller than she is, who she outweighs considerably, and who she can easily outbench. Judging from my own personal experiences with such ladies, I say: OPPOSITES MAKE THE BEST LOVERS!!!
With all the comments I read here, I found that there are people, both male and female, who are self-conscious about their weight or about their stature (or about both) with comments such as (not limited to): “I’m too tall.” “I’m too short.” “I’m too fat.” “I’m too skinny.” or “I wish I could change my (whatever).” I have been a tall skinny man throughout my entire adult life (almost five decades and still going JUST LIKE A DURACELL!!!), at 6 feet tall and 125-140 pounds, but usually at 130-135 pounds which I still am right now. I like being tall and skinny as an adult but it was not that way while I was a kid in school. I was extremely self-conscious about being so tall and so skinny, especially after I lost during a physical confrontation I had with a short stocky girl who was very large (weighing far more than I weighed). I stood over a head taller than she did but that did not matter because with her size, weight and strength advantage, she easily overpowered me. Whatever self-confidence I might have had surely plummeted after I was so easily defeated by that girl. I walked away in total defeat without saying a word. I eventually conquered my self-consciousness about being so skinny, especially after graduating from high school. I believe my loss to that short stocky girl is what helped me along, as a tall skinny man, toward my becoming physically and sexually attracted to short stocky women, especially to women way bigger and stronger than I am while I tower way over them!!! I began pursuing such women who I believed would be just as much turned on by having a tall skinny man like me as I am by having such short stocky women like them. I succeeded long enough to continue pursuing such women which is why I kept a barbell set at home where such a lady and I engaged in clean and jerk weightlifting contests (I always lost!!!) along with wrestling matches (again, I always lost!!!). Each time, my having lost to the lady turned the both of us on!!! One such lady and I (soon after she and I first met) were kissing each other passionately and caressing each other (almost uncontrollably!!!) while she and I were laying on my carpet when she suddenly said to me: “You like stocky women.” I exclaimed: “YEP!!!” Everyone is different. We all have our own physical and sexual preferences so, then, why should people be self-conscious about their weight or about their stature (or about both)? Tall, short, fat or thin, someone, somewhere, is going to go for you!!!
I think women of all sizes , heights etc are attractive , there’s someone for everyone , the importance is not having tunnel vision , I myself find personality much more attractive than looks and humor plays a huge factor as well one should never limit his or her choice to a person’s financial picture or looks nor height but in their character , I’ll be 55 and no spring chicken but happiness can be found regardless if that person fits your requirements I think having an open mind and just being oneself is what’s the deciding factor ( money may make life a bit easier but it surely will not make one happy unless money in itself is all u are interested in .
I am a tall skinny man. I will refer here specifically to the period when I was in my 20s and 30s. I am now age 68 (still tall and skinny and by no means “out of the ball game!!!”). I weighed between 130 and 140 pounds (lowest weight: 125) at 6 feet tall. Yes, people generally associate height with power and strength but that is not always the case. In fact, it really is true that opposites attract: I was always turned on having, for an intimate relationship, much shorter women (4-foot-11 to 5-foot-2), who were larger (160-180+ pounds) than myself and who were stronger than myself [e.g. outlifting me in weightlifting (especially in the clean and jerk!!!); downing me, and then pinning me into submission, during a wrestling match; beating me at armwrestling despite the longer length of my arms] and who were just as much turned on as I was about the sharp contrast in our physical dimensions (going “against the grain” so to speak). There were times when one of those short, large, strong ladies who I was intimately involved with (I had one at a time, of course!!!) was even bold enough to look way up at me, while we were both standing in front of each other, and then say to me while I was looking way down at her (especially after I had just lost to her in a particular test of strength): “I’m bigger than you are and I’m stronger than you are!!!” which she knew turned me on just hearing that. One of the ladies, who stood 4-foot-11 weighing 175 pounds (she outweighed me by 40 pounds while I towered over her by more than a foot!!!), went so far as to say to me (because she knew it would turn me on hearing it): “Whatever you try to do to me, I would do to you with greater force because I am stronger than you are and I weigh more than you do.” I never heard it said that way, either before or since. So you see, there are exceptions to the rule about height being associated with power and strength!
I am a 14 year old boy, I am 5’6 and I seem to find girls that are taller than me REALLY adorable. I have a crush on a girl that is asian that is I think 12, she is one grade below me. I am only up to half of her head. I think she is somewhere around 5’8. I also tend to like girls that are asian, I deem them as pretty although in the long run I don’t believe these things really matter. If you are a tall girl and feel like you are too tall, I don’t think you should be sad because there are guys out there that like girls that are tall or taller than them.
I respect what you’re saying, but short girls deal with some shit as well. I’m a guy and my girlfriend and I have been together since high school. I’m 6’2, she’s 5’3-5’4ish. All throughout high school, taller girls would mock her for her size and complain that she was “wasting my height” and wouldn’t I prefer a girl as “beautifully tall as themselves” and that I was being offensive. They’d call her a slut, say soon enough I’d realize I didn’t want to be with a girl like her, even though she was a stereotypical good girl with great grades and a dedication to her religion. We never even had sex. She was amazing and I could tell it was really hard for her to be bullied so much.
People need to realize that short girls, even if they’re preferred, are people too. Telling them they’re a “waste of inches” is akin to saying “you’re not good enough for him” or “he’s wasted on you.” That’s really fvcked up. If you’re tall, take advantage of being able to reach things from cupboards (as I do) and stop bullying shorter people.
I think women who is petite and have curves is hot and sexy. and.of course most men want taller then women.
I think so too. I’m waaaaaaaay under average when it comes to height, and my crush (who likes me back) is waaaaaaaay above average when it comes to height. I like tall boys for some reason.
I never used height as an indicator of strength or power. It’s not within my personal experience. Perhaps not the general rule or the norm but for my family it doesn’t seem to matter. Most tall woman I know have known have said they would be afraid to mess with me. Growing up full blooded Italian, the men were all scary my brother being the biggest bad ass Of them all! Who stands only 5’6 feet tall. We are all genetically ripped cut, define, I am the tallest of all the girls at 5’3 which most people call short and some times consider less then have said things
Like I need help to reach things on high shelves. My response is that I love to climb if And if I can’t reach its a
Perfect reason to get to, I have great balance, strength and flexibility it’s all I have ever needed to reach anything and I can and do ask for help to grab something from a taller person if it’s not appropriate to climb it or find a latter,
I see nothing wrong or weak with asking for help for anything! Particularly from men cuz they love it!!! As far as protection -lol I have taken down 3 men.! I don’t really need it! My brother would have to literally be threatened with his life to fight or would go to prison he is a trained lethal Weapon! Tall does not threaten him! My dad used to throw full grown men bigger and taller then him like it was nothing! An x boxer for the marine core and He only stands 5’10 some people are just stronger then others, I do aerial which takes a great deal of strength I keep up with woman 20 years younger and much taller! I have always gotten a lot of male attention even now at 50 and still from
Men much younger, im pretty sure it’s because I am in good shape not about being short or tall its seems more like the proportion of f a lady with men not size that I have found, I have an hour glass shape I have curves plenty of bosom a bubbled out butt and plenty of definition. That’s-what I have found they like. I can look like crap hair a mess no makeup and sill get heads to turn if I wear anything that shows off those curves. I have dated men as short as 5’3 and as tall as 6’5 it’s what ever I found attractive about them I don’t need a protector I do fine on my own, both physically and emotionally I am confident and assertive. Many describe me as fearless! I work hard to not fight -lol it’s all about grace for me these days I let men be the masculine tough energy Nit because I need it but because I like it from them! I love doing aerial cuz it’s about being able to use all that strength and combine it with beauty and grace, I still would not back down from a good fight or a viable threat though cuz I’m always ready for a
Good take down! hahahahaha
It seems i’ve always been drawn to tall and taller women.
When I was younger being only 6’1” it seemed I was rejected then and now age appropriate women who
range from 6’0” to 6’5” don’t seem to have any issues with
the height difference and it works for me.
Boy you people are really sold on media actually tall women have more testosterone and small women have more estogen read up on it
Do you have a scientific study to back that testosterone claim? Estrogen does stunt growth, but human growth hormone is what increases growth.
6’4″ heterosexual male here:
I have always liked WOMAN, regardless of height.
I’ve had a “thing” for tall girls, but MOST of my ladies over the years have been 5’5″ or shorter (even in 6″ heels, in one case- she was 4’9″!).
Honestly, women tend to be shorter, and because i AM taller than average, YOU’RE ALL SHORT!
I’m kidding.
A taller woman would “match up” better, logistically-speaking, when it comes to slow face-to-face lovemaking, for example- but I like my ladies built for making babies (even if we only ever practise making them), not siring them.- i don’t get the whole “twiggy” look. Never have.
Lynda Carter, Mae West, Amy Lee (of Evanescence), Anne Margaret, Olivia Dudley, Elizabeth Olsen….. ALL favorites.
Before you go calling me an old fogey, I’m only turning 46 this Fall! LOL
Mae West west was not tall neither were some of the other American females celebrities in the past were MOST DEFINITELY not tall – media did and still does embellish the facts. I once met Linda Lucardi who is claimed to be 5ft5 (according to Google) yet having met her in Coventry Theatre she was no more than 5ft tall (I am 5ft5) so do know the difference. Most likely facial and body symmetry is the answer – always makes an individual so much more self-assured and taller. Look at John Wayne, he was 6ft2 yet resembled that of a man of 6ft5 simply because he carried himself as someone so much more powerful in screen-character.
Well…I feel if a woman is tall and she has a very nice figure and an equal amount of weight along side a pretty face both tall and short men will want to date them. That’s like all the packages in one. Who wouldn’t want that?
Not only tall women have nice bodies I’ve been described as having a kick ass body and beautiful face by many men and I’m only 5″2
I think it is that women don’t want to date a shorter man. I think they have more of a hangup then men. I would love a really tall women, over 6ft, but most of them have the idea that the man is suppose to be taller.
Ha! I’m quite tall (5’9″) and have always gotten loads of male attention. Would I get more attention if I was shorter? Maybe, but I wouldn’t necessarily want any more than I get! I also don’t have a height preference for men, and have dated men both shorter and taller than me. I’ve heard this is unusual for women but I’m more attracted to a man’s masculine energy and aura. My husband is only an inch or two taller than me but he’s very strong and I’ve always felt protected by him. This topic really isn’t a big deal for the amount of attention it gets!
I’m 5ft my husband is 6’4”. I don’t love our height difference (never have, it almost kept Me
From Dating him!) but I do love being petite, and that I have a big strong protector. Fortunately our 2 sons and 1 daughter got his height while
Our Other 3 daughters are More petite.
I am half an inch shorter than 6 feet tall and once dated the tallest woman I have ever seen (who I am fortunate enough to have found again on the Internet after 12 years). She is literally 6 feet 4 inches tall and has had very few men, although she is at least average looking in my opinion. Height is of no relevance to me – in fact my wife has a part-time job of standing on top of wedding cakes and test driving Matchbox cars as her main profession. My experience with Ursula – or Little Bear as she was known at university – was great, so if any men reading this say they could not go out with a tall woman, I say thanks because it gives the rest of us more opportunities to do so.
I am way late on this but I prefer tall ladies by a long shot. I am over 6 foot, so I like a lady at least 5’10 or taller. Tall women have such a confidence about them. In the grand scheme of things I don’t guess it really matters but I like someone more height equivalent (or close) and not submissive. I want an equal.
I like your answer.
I’m a 6’2″ male and I wholeheartedly agree with this. To me, height translates to a stature that can rival my own. I love the idea of having a partner in everything, not someone I necessarily have to protect all the time (I will certainly do so if she needs it). Honestly, I find weakness rather unattractive. I like the idea of someone who can stand up to/challenge me (NOT dominate, to be clear). So somewhere in the back of my head, I equate height with strength as well. So that makes it a big plus for me!
…I mean I also care a lot more about attitude too, so I’d say I find height attractive, but it’s your character that really makes the difference. Firecrackers are the best
Being physically smaller dies not mean you are weaker. Lol. I am a competitive athlete. 5’3 and out perform any tall girl in our group. I am a single mom, financially independent as well. Did it on my own after moving here from Eastern Europe with nothing. Beauty and strength comes from within. You all know the saying: “ It isn’t the size of the dog in the fight that’s matters but the size of the fight in the dog” with that said I think there is beauty in everything tall, short, man or woman. Diversity in all.
Iam 5’10 that’s enough tall for men but my sister is 5’10 I don’t like that and she always wears high heels which makes her 6’5 even I feel tiny even my mom will be taller sometimes in high heels
I am 5’4 my boyfriend is only few inches taller..we seem almost the same height but I wish there was more proportion..
I’m 5’3″ and have always dated taller guys. I’m on the upper side of average weight for my height, and I refuse to date skinny guys because I think when a female outweighs a guy, it makes him look childish in comparison. Besides, I like a thicker guy so he can be like a lovable teddy bear. Bones are for dogs! And not for nothing, I’ve met plenty of really tall, boring-looking chicks. Seems most guys want their female looking feminine and having a sense of style- even the ones who choose taller gals.
I read how you would never date a skinny man who you outweigh, which, no doubt, would include a tall skinny man like me who you outweigh because, in your words, that skinny man would look more like a child (sizewise and weightwise) in comparison to you, being that you outweigh him. I would have to state that a skinny man, including a tall skinny man like me at 6 feet tall and weighing between 125 pounds and 135 pounds, would look, compared to a short large woman, not more like a child, but actually MORE LIKE AN INSECT!!! In fact, my lowest ever weight at my 6-foot frame was 123 pounds but I still attracted, and scored, short large ladies who asked me out (thanks, at least in part, to my being otherwise attractive). All of those women outweighed me and some of them outweighed me considerably while I towered way over them. Yes indeed. JUST LIKE AN INSECT!!! That’s how I looked compared to the short large women with whom I was intimately involved, with all of those women being stronger than myself (some of whom were actually far stronger than myself!!!). One such lady (near the beginning of our intimate relationship), standing a mere 4-foot-11 but weighing a massive 190 pounds, certainly massive considering her very short stature (at the time, SHE OUTWEIGHED ME BY FIFTY-FIVE POUNDS WHILE I TOWERED OVER HER BY MORE THAN A FOOT!!!), she boldly challenged me to a clean-and jerk weightlifting contest. She arrived at my apartment where I had a barbell set with a barbell (fully adjusted with extra plates added) already set up on the floor. While I was watching her, she grabbed that barbell from the floor and then she easily swung it up over her shoulders. While I continued watching her, she just as easily jerked that heavy barbell right up over her head!!! I was both impressed and stunned at the same time, wondering if I could even match her. While she and I stood face-to face, with her looking way up at me while I was looking way down at her, she said to me: “Now let’s see you do it.” While she was watching me, I grabbed that barbell from the floor and then I tried. I tried as hard as I could. I COULDN’T DO IT!!! I was unable to swing the barbell up. I couldn’t even get it above my knees. I was simply too skinny despite my much greater height over her. I immediately conceded defeat and then I congratulated her with a kiss on her left cheek. She was so proud of the fact that she easily outlifted me which actually turned the both of us on. My loss to her was instrumental in solidifying our intimate relationship. Of course, she playfully reminded me, at times, of her easy victory over me that day (and I just loved it!!!). Thank goodness there are all types of people in the world who are physically attracted and sexually attracted to different body sizes and different body shapes. While you would never go for me because I am a skinny man who you outweigh, thank goodness there are plenty of short large women like yourself who do (and who already have!!!).
Oh, I forgot to mention why losing to my 4-foot-11, 190-pound short large lady in that clean and jerk weightlifting contest (that she boldly challenged me to!!!) was instrumental in solidifying our intimate relationship (I stood 6 feet tall at 135 pounds): The clean and jerk involves lifting either a fixed or an adjustable barbell up from the floor and then up over the shoulders (called the clean) and then up overhead (called the jerk). She easily cleaned and easily jerked a heavy barbell (adjusted to that higher weight). When my turn came, I tried but I failed to clean (failing miserably!!!), getting the barbell no higher up than my knees. My having gracefully accepted my loss to her showed her that I was not stubborn and that I was not defiant (I was not carrying on and acting like a child!!!) after losing to her and that I was not in denial which means I accepted the reality that she easily outlifted me. It also showed her that I was not insecure about myself after having lost to her (insecurity is a sign of weakness and immaturity in both women and men). She even admitted to me that she prefers much taller men and, guess what? I AM A MUCH TALLER MAN!!! How could I possibly feel insecure after she admitted that to me? Women do not like men who are stubborn and who are defiant and who are not accepting of reality, and women certainly do not like men who are insecure about themselves. I don’t have to be a woman to know all of that. Just imagine, with my standing six feet tall (especially with my skinny 135 pounds!!!), if I were childish enough, right after she won, to insult her stature by saying something like this to her: “Yeah, but you are very short.” “I am very tall.” “I am way taller than you are.” Yes, her being a very short woman and my being a very tall man are true but saying something like that to her would clearly have shown total disrespect on my part. In fact, with my slight build vs. her large build, especially with her obvious weight advantage, she could have (and she most likely would have!!!) grabbed me, thrown me down, and then pinned me into submission, demanding an apology from me before she would allow me to get back up again, and then she most likely would have ended the relationship right there. I would not have blamed her. Thank goodness for me I knew better. With her being a stocky lady (some would say more fat than stocky but stocky nevertheless), going into that weightlifting contest, her muscles, including her arm muscles and especially her upper arm muscles (a.k.a. her biceps), were much larger than mine. How could I not have accepted losing to her after it was over? I showed my lady, although I am not a strong man physically, I am, indeed, a very strong man mentally and emotionally which she appreciated. Yes, there are plenty of women out there who like that big, strong, “muscular mountain of” a man who they can hug just like a teddy bear. What good is that if he is a man who disrespects women and who mistreats women and who even goes so far as to abuse women? All three, unfortunately, are not uncommon. Skinny men like me who treat women with respect and with admiration are not about to be “put out of business.” The gentlemanly conduct and the positive attitude and the respect I showed for my lady right after she easily outlifted me in weightlifting is what she admired me for. THAT is what was instrumental in solidifying our relationship. WOMEN AND MEN can learn from my aforementioned experience!!!
Oh, I have yet another comment to make: You stated (in your own words) that: “You refuse to date skinny guys because you think when a female outweighs a guy, it makes him look childish in comparison” and you also stated: “Bones are for dogs.” It seems to me that you have “sour grapes” and that you have “a bone to pick” (pun intended!!!) with skinny men like me who don’t weigh that much. The fact is, the height of a tall man, including the height of a tall skinny man like me who doesn’t weigh that much, attracts women of all sizes and shapes. THE FACTS SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES!!! Although I, as a tall skinny man standing 6 feet tall and weighing 125-135 pounds, prefer to have a short large woman, generally between 4-foot-11 and 5-foot-2, as an intimate girlfriend outweighing me by at least 40 pounds (I’ve already had quite a few such women!!!), I have also had intimate girlfriends who were skinny, both short and tall. I would never say: “Bones are for dogs” about skinny women because of my having a preference for short large women. The old saying (not to be gender specific here) is: “One man’s meat is another man’s poison.” You stated that “you like a thicker guy so he can be like a lovable teddy bear.” Well, then, you must know exactly how I feel while my tall small body is being grabbed and then held in place against the thick, cushiony flesh of a short large woman’s body where she locks me into position with her big strong arms while my long skinny arms (just like tentacles!!!) are probing her large, feminine, strong upper body. Being the tall skinny man that I am, I am always turned on while I am being physically and sexually dominated and controlled by a short large woman who is bigger, heavier and stronger than I am WHILE I AM WAY TALLER THAN SHE IS!!! Of course, “TALLER” becomes “LONGER” while she and I are laying together in bed!!! I feel totally absorbed and completely under her control (exactly the way I like it!!!) while she and I are making love, sometimes with MY LONGER, SMALLER BODY on top of HER SHORTER, LARGER BODY but most of the time with HER SHORTER, LARGER BODY on top of MY LONGER, SMALLER BODY (nothing feels better than that!!!)
I’m probably about 5’6 or 5’7.. but I’m only eleven. I’d like to stay this height but I’ve grown four inches in a year and both my doctor and family say I won’t stop growing anytime soon.. 🙁 so once I’m in high school I’ll probably be 6 ft tall 🙁 heh.. heh.. help
You’ll appreciate in the long run, trust me.
-a tall adult women.
I’m a 5’7 1/2 tall age 29 women… where ever I go I feel like I’m the tallest person. I have always wanted to be an inch shorter because everyone I know is either my height or shorter. So when I’m around someone taller I feel the need to be taller. I was with a guy for ten years that was my height, we didn’t mind each others heights but I would wish sometimes he was 2 inches taller than me. unfortunately we didn’t last because I finally realized he was emotionally abusive. I think that if you are with a really great guy you will overlook the height. Height in men never bothered me when I was younger but now I wounder what it’s like to be with a 6 ft tall guy, I’ve heard a women say one time that she didn’t like tall men because they are clumsy Lol, When I wear heels I can feel all eyes on me and I get a lot attention, but I’m used to it by now and act like I don’t notice. It’s hard not to get noticed when you are tall and beautiful. There are more short women then tall women that’s why tall guys are with them. We’re harder to find…
I feel you
People said that to me, but I stopped growing when I was 12-13 yrs old. I hit 5’9″ and nothing else after that.
I am tall and i like tall boys
I am a male 5’11” and have always been attracted to
tall and taller women. Now that I am older, I find
older taller women don’t seem to have any problems
with height difference. My present significant other is
6’7″ and is a beautiful mature/sexy woman and has no problem with my lessor stature and in fact will wear heels
and totally dominate and is comfortable with at times
the awkwardness of a much shorter love interest.
6’7″? Whoa, that is TALL!
I am almost retired and ever since high school was ALWAYS drawn to the tallest women. I am 6’3″ and mostly dated women 5’7″ to 6’1″. It seemed that 5’10” is what was perfect to me personally. It’s hard to find tall women, but with my preference ended up married to a tall woman. I love it when her shoulder fits snuggly right under my arm when my arm is around her shoulder. When you are tall man – you can kiss longer with a tall woman and not have to bend over and hurt your back or twist your neck.
Wowww on point, I love your comment
lol I’m 4 ft and 10 inch
And I’m 18
I’m 6’1″. I’ve dated girls 5″11″. My ex wife was 5″4″. I prefer smaller women. No taller tan 5″ 6″. They just seem more submissive. I love to engulf them when we cuddle.
I’m 14 and my height is really short! No matter wat others say……I wanna b tall.!
I didn’t like been short when I was your age and now I love it. You can’t change who you are so just make the best of what you have and enjoy it x
I’m 5’10 and I’m 15 I hate my height but should I
I’m the same height and ever man chases me so don’t worry
we are all different sizes that’s what makes us unique, just be happy with what you have. Xx
I feel your frustration. I’m like five ft 10 and am only 13 years old. I’m worried that guys won’t like me.
im 5.7.7 i dont like my height im a girl 15 years old im too short it is really bad
hey hw r u???
dont be bithered ua height is perfect u r just 15 🙂
How are you short?
That’s a great height for you age! Not to tall, nor to short.
I loooooooooooove my height! I am 5’8″ and my first and only love of my life,fell in love for me in first sight!he told me he had always looked for a tall curvaceous girl like me…i love being tall!i have always been praised for my height.dont mind the results of this site at all. Super models and miss universes are always tall,and all men like them.beyonce is tall too.so is monica bellucci and jessica alba…we rock!
lol I’m in 6th grade and I’m already 5.4″ tall!
I’ve been thinking about this a lot. I work around Ohio state campus so I see tons of women of various sizes. The sight of a short woman is unattractive. The girl doesn’t look grown and looks like a younger child. Taller women look more adult and theres more of their body to admire.
Taller women are more interesting, also, be cause yodontdon’t see many of them. I’d love to have a girl 5’10-6’2.
5’9 to 6’2 myself..
I’m 5’9 and a girl. I hardly see any girls my height or taller
That makes girls like me feel better cos we just think most men fall for smaller women
This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.
One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog. No doubt all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier would not have given me the time of day. And even now, they may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young? I was amazed how the dating game changed in my favor. And I used it to my advantage, just as women had done years earlier.
I am now married and have 4 sons. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. (Maybe due to the Alfa male fascination) So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man (and Beta males) until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males (and Beta males) in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate. There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.
By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.
http://shortguycentral.com/P-57/beware-of-the-reformed-heightist-woman
This writer tell about his rejections in his 20’s by women only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s. He warns of the dangers of the “Reformed Heightest Woman” who are desperate after wasting their life chasing the Alfa male and now want a stable Beta with a steady pay-check.
Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males
Why women lose in the dating game
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html
During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace.wordpress.com: ”Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.”
”I can’t believe how many men my age are only interested in younger women,” wails Gail, a 34-year-old advertising executive as she describes her first search through men’s profiles on the RSVP internet dating site. She is shocked to find many mid-30s men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age.
Talking to many women like her, it’s intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren’t ready. American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. She acknowledged ”there was no good reason to end things”, yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She’s is now 39 and facing grim choices.
this is funny the most desired men in Hollywood are not even tall so how does it workout women prefer taller Johnny deep is only 5ft 9 and Brad Pitt is 5ft 11 same a me to be truthful talk women bodies is not as nice as small look at Kim kardasian her body is nice and small an curvy.
when you talk about feeling alpha vs beta, i think youre thinking of the womens reasons from the wrong perspective. as a tall woman myself it isnt because i dont think a guy is “good enough” for me that i dont want to date him, but the inverted version of your own mindframe. if tall is masculine and short is feminine, then tall woman dont feel “woman” enough for many men especially those that arent taller than them. a man shorter than his girlfriend is likely to feel “not very manly” and the “weaker” one in the couple. well, its the same for women, except with a shorter boyfriend, they feel like a big ungainly heavy masculine lump next to their boyfriend. they dont feel pretty or dainty or feminine, whereas a man bigger than them makes them feel better about themselves. they too struggle with alpha vs beta feelings, but in ways relevant to feminine traits instead of masculine. it annoys me when men talk about their own feelings and struggle and then dismiss women as simp,y evil for its own sake, the thought that they too could be humans struggling with actual feelings, with actual reasons better than “wanted to be mean for no reason’ for doing things, and these men dont even consider trying to think of their perspective. the thought doesnt even occur to them, these women must just be bad people, the bitches.
You are speaking from your personal experience, which is all well and fine, but in my own experience men tend to shun women taller than them. Don’t assume that women don’t get crushed on me shorter than them because that is not always the case. In high school I reached near close to my full adult height of about 5’7”. I had a crush on an immensely attractive, but tiny (talking about 5’0”) lad in my year group. I never plucked up the courage to ask him out directly but I certainly did indicate I was interested in him and having three sisters even if he didn’t know they would have known. What did he do? Him and his group of cronies proceeded to (sometimes physically) bully me and went for the tiniest girl in the year group who must have been about 4’9”.
Okay, so you say, he was obviously a jerk, there are other men smaller than you who would be interested, but no, really, this isn’t what happens. The only guys who date me and seem to be interested are taller than me, even it’s just by an inch. Every guy shorter than me that I’ve posed the question ‘Would you ever date a woman taller than you?’ has said no because ”it isn’t right” or some other crap. Frustratingly all of my crushes have been on men shorter than me so I’m left with the options of getting ignored and staying single or breaking some sweet tall guys heart because I’m not attracted to him
Please don’t act like all women will reject a short guy.
Most tall girls get rejected by shorter men so they just automatically fear that rejection so they often do the rejection first to spear their feelings. I’m 5’11 and trust me I get rejected a lot.! I have dated shorter men but they felt emasculated. So its not that they want to turn you down. They’ve had bad experiences before so they’re scared.
Body image is so important to girls and women that it makes or breaks their enjoyment of life. As the father of a fairly tall daughter (5’9 1/2″) I work very hard to support her happiness. Sadly, a tall girl who rejects a shorter guy is usually doing it because of her own body-image problems — NOT because she thinks he is worthless! She is afraid that she will feel like a big clumsy oaf when she is walking beside him. She wants to feel dainty and feminine.
So guys, if you ask a taller girl out and she says no, don’t feel insulted and don’t hate her. Feel a little bit of sympathy for her. If you really like her a lot, buy a pair of tall-heel cowboy boots or lift-shoes and ask her again later. Point out the shoes and ask “Am I tall enough for you now?” With a friendly smile.
This worked for my daughter’s new boyfriend! She thinks it was an adorable gesture and she respects his persistence.
Hi Everyone! I am nearly 14 and 4ft 11 almost 5 I am the shortest girl in a ll my classes, but i am often told i am pretty, i like taller guys, usually alot taller then me.
There’s this really cute tall boy Vernesias i think (dont know how to spell it), who is hispanic but he looks white, light skinned like me. he is like the cutiest boy in the whole 8th grade and i have a big crush on him. He’s only ever talked to me once cause we don’t have any classes together i only see him in the hallway. But i have gotten some signs he likes me and some signs that its really doesn’t, prob just thinks i look ok.
Ive gotten my friend to ask him if he likes me, wasnt the best response. But his friend told me he liked me, he never talks to me though. Maybe he thinks i’m too short for him, What should i do?
Plus i have seen him looking at me before in the hallway or at lunch, never says anything though, and sometimes he just walks right past me its like a mystery game…
And a tall women will find it harder to be rejected so reject her first then she be chasing you. Women ha sky get rejected so it have a bigger a effect on them. Men are used to it and only happens because men make is easy for women. I’m sure that’s why women dress how they do to win the mating game.
Don’t worry how short you are cause I am 4’7 and almost 15.
“We found that shorter, slimmer females with long slender legs, a curvy figure and larger breasts are more attractive,” said lead researcher Dr William Brown of Brunel University.
Isn’t this general knowledge? You don’t need to do research to come up with this.
But sometimes. Research is necessary to verify to prove a claim ( thats scienece ) because they used higher sample size. Like 1000s. To get a hard factual claim
Definitely!
short women with a in-shape body can look so sexy and attractive.
Everyone is beautiful! I’m short 4′ 10″ and I’m finished at growing says my doctor and I’m almost 15. Yes I wish I am taller, but it’s my genes and wishing is not going to change anything. I want to say ALL Tall women, short women, and average are all PERFECT! Men and women should NOT care about height, because appearances do not matter, your personality does!
my girlfriend is several inches shorter than me but i find her reaally cute. being short is part of her charm. i prefer short girls. so no probs sis 🙂
Im 5’9 and asian but really want to grow taller
5’9 is a good height for asian
And what about being ‘inbetween’ height?. I am 5ft5 – taller than many shorter women and smaller than taller women. I rarely see women of my own height and they are mostly shorter or occassionally tall.
My very good looks, regardless of height, attracts men of all kind, yet mainly shorter men – don’t know why this is and do not wear heels or dress in a very feminine way. My preference is for taller men like many women but can’t explain why this is the case. I have had shorter boyfriends and found them to be a lot more insecure than taller men.
Negative media has a lot to answer for regarding ‘tall’ women however and because the vast majority are not tall, let alone super-model tall!. I know one woman who is 5ft7 and always trying to make herself taller than all the women in her immediate circles – makes me annoyed that she does this when it is not necessary at all and she knows that I feel not so great about my own height but I am physically more attractive than she is and perhaps why she does it?.
I’m also 46, and will be married for the first time to a 5’10” at a minimum woman, because I’m 6′ 2″ myself-if I had one complaint about her, I’d truly love her to be 6′ 2″ or taller, and wear stilettos!
Tall women are so astonishingly beautiful, and all of those legs to caress-WOW!
-MR. Anton-
I am 46 years old and my personal tastes in women to have broadened but one thing is certain and for me the height of a woman was never an issue for me,
So men don’t like tall women? If a man and a woman are friendly with each other, why should the difference in their heights have anything to do with it? It is, or should be, about personality, rapport etc, not about differences in physical appearance such as height, skin colour, hair colour etc. Why should the man always be taller than the woman? The television personality Ronnie Corbett is just over 5 feet tall while his wife is several inches taller, which proves that there can be exceptions to the stereotype of the man always being the taller member in a relationship. It’s about whether a man and a woman like each other and enjoy each other’s company. I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship with a woman who is several inches taller than myself or who is dark-skinned, red-haired, left-handed or has a disability if I liked her and enjoyed her company.
Now that’s the real deal.
The article is not saying that men don’t like tall women, only saying that the findings of their research on men’s preference for ‘ideal’ size – height of women – falls directly outside of (popular media culture) and stereotypes female beauty to reinforce the negative assertion that very tall/men women are supossed to be the ideal of human species. What I don’t get however is the fact that women who are ‘between’ height – 5ft4/5 who are neither small nor actually tall, appear to vanish somewhere in the survey or even commentators response to it.
In my view, I totally agree with you that ‘If a man and a woman are friendly with each other, why should the difference in their heights have anything to do with it?’. Indeed, personality traits are just as important as physical attraction.
I am 5’9 and I a quite happy with my height and I don’t like sports. I don’t get the point of fussing over height. Its natural and there is nothing u can do over it. So, I guess its all abiut being happy with what u have…..
Here in India, its all different. i am tall, fair and 6’2″ but shorter girls find me too tall and taller girls(not available). Well i don’t care if she is short or tall; only thing i care for is love. Also, girls here cling to their boyfriends, even if they don’t love and care for them, until they kick them out. And after first bad experience, they don’t try another or even if someone takes first initiative, they think all boys are the same.
I’m a woman that is 5’2 and I only like men that are usually 6’2 less drama.
You think you all have it bad? I’m 16, weigh 139 and I’m 5’11…. Yes, I’m on the volleyball team but MOST of the guys are shorter than me, so it sucks…
Hi.. i am 23 years old female with 5’4 height..my boyfriend is 6ft and i always worry about my height..i wish i would be 5’7..but what is your opinion friends? Is it good height i have?
Yes it’s a great height there’s nothing wrong with short people
I’m 15 and 5’1/2 and I hate being short. My experience with males indicates that they like taller girls. I have this one friend and I don’t like him in that way, but he told my friend that he would like me in that way if only I was taller. Also, every time I wanted to do any sport other than gymnastics, my parents would tell me that I wouldn’t be any good at it because I’m short… So those of you who are tall as lucky
I am 4’10”. I was a great swimmer , could beat about all, butterfly was my stroke of choice. Also I played soccer and was always center field because I could weave in & out of the tall lanky girls. Dont listen to your parents on that, with practice you can do what you set your mind to! 🙂
I am 14 and 4 ft 9 1/2inches! You think you are short!
In response to Kayla; you simply only need to have stronger calf muscles to be a sucessful gymnast – height is actually a hinderance in this type of sport and why petite/average built girls excel best at it. I was trained as a gymnast up until the age of 12 yet grew too tall and lanky to balance myself effectively. Tall girls are great at many kinds of sports, yet gymnastics not really one of them if my own personal experiences are anything to report.
Hi Small and Tall Women! 🙂
I have read almost all your answers and I have been really surprised to see that tall women are not happy because being tall and that men prefer most of the time shorter women. Incredible… I always thought men adore tall women. I feel so sorry for those of you who are tall women and suffering because men pay attention to shorter women…
Me too I’m suffering, but because being short. I’m not an American girl, I’m Italian, 157 cm and 32 years old. In Italy many girls are taller than me, most of them around 165. I always hated my height, I wish I could have been taller… Men like me as I am, most of them, because I am slim (50 kg, small breast). But I still feel complexed. For being so complexed, I even declared to authorities that I am 160 cm tall, for my identity card and passport…
And like it was not enough, years ago I knew on line a man tall 191 cm, the perfect man from all points of view. I’ve been always attracted by tall men. And even if I wanted to meet him so much and he was ok with my height, I got more complexed everyday. One day he told me to stop thinking like this because LOVE IS NOT ABOUT HEIGHTS. I should have listen to him…But I didn’t, I kept thinking that when he will meet me he will not like me because too much short for him and when he will reject me, I will suffer so much. So I didn’t meet him face to face. We met other people in these years, but we kept talking like friends. He is always there for me when I need him, giving me advices, listening to me when I am happy or sad. I never had such a wonderful and deep feeling with a man…I care so much about our friendship, but in all these years I never forget him, I’m still thinking about him because the truth is I love him, but I don’t have the courage to tell him…We planned to meet this year some months ago, just to meet each other. At the last moment something happened and I didn’t meet him yet…I am single thinking about him, he is with another woman but as it seems not very involved… And sometimes I am still scared that he would prefer a tall woman than me…What I know is that I want to meet him so much…
What would you do if you were me?
Greetings to all of you!
I’m 5’2 and 15 years old and I wish I could be taller than I am now.
Be happy you are the height you are; you have a MUCH larger dating pool than taller women do.
If you were a guy and only 5’2″ tall at 15 years old, you would have a tough row to hoe when it comes to dating; women ALWAYS go for taller guys.
Select a guy that is between 2″ and 6″ taller than yourself if you want a long lasting relationship; 87.93% of marriages in the USA that last twenty-five years or more, include a man that is just 4.1″ taller than the woman on average.
Women that are looking for a one night stand elect a man that is 8″ taller or more… While men select a woman that is more than 6″ shorter for those one night stand.
Same here. I’m Asian (I live in Asia) and I’m actually short compared with my friends. I also don’t have any curves and I’m just waiting for a growth spurt to happen!
I’m a Zimbabwean gal very tall and very slim I find short boys going after me
women have hangups over height, npt men. men only stick to shorter women because she has to be at least 4 inchest shorter than you to even consider you as relationship potential. sure there are exceptions, in like 1% of women who just don’t care. problem is even they have their fair share of suitors so they can pick and choose regardless. it’s just not worth the investment to date a tall woman unless she goes out of her way to prove that she’s not wasting your time.
I wish i could be taller im only 4’10-4’11and weight 100lbs.which im kind of heavy..everytime i walk with ky husband on the st.or in the store man are staring at me i got all the attention i dont think if it call attractive but for me its make me feel uncomfortbale..some guys they just giving me their # random..
I’m 5 1/2, 100 lbs
There is a difference between liking a shorter women and liking a short women.
there are so many comments of sob stories about you guys’ heights and not being able to achieve a romantic relationship or having rummors spread about you because you were too tall or too short and i just wanted you all to know that i think you are all damn hot wether you are 5ft or 6ft im here for you and think you are hella beautiful and if the people around you cannot see that you should get new people because you are stunning and i love you so much
-kisses, A
I’m 5’9” and most men that i date are basketball players (6’2″- …) and evry single one of them told me that they love my height so much
But honestly if he likes you he wont look the height
(Sorry if I speld something wrong, not american)
Don’t worry 🙂
I’m 5 foot 11 and in high school I really liked this guy who was a lot shorter than me. He was the shortest guy in class, but I didn’t really care and we got along really well. I eventually had the courage to ask him out and he rejected me because I was quote on quote “To tall” for him.
It was a bit depressing and I felt really crappy even though my height is not really something I can control. I have the tendency to like shorter guys and it’s always tough when they reject me because of my height.
On the bright side, as a powerful tall woman, you won’t be attracting the immature and weak men. Only powerful men can approach and handle. I’d say take advantage of your height!
I’m 5’1.5″.. I was like an average girl in the school.. no one flirted with me, but now I’m of the same height and now few of my school mates like me a lot saying I’m cute…few guys say I’m ok with my height and any boy could ever prefer, but now I love my friend a lot he love me too, he cares me such a way that i’d give my life to him, but he never expressed.. but he says he likes tall girls.. he is 6’1.5″ I feel I’m a way too short for him. May be he likes me if I’m chubby.
Actually that’s false. A lot of taller guys are weak inside depending on extrinsic factors like their height and not developing their mental cultivation much. The best man will be one that is strong inside and has overcome challenges, not one who has been given more. A strong shorter guy is truly an exemplar specimen of a man who can overcome his shortcomings
Implying men of shorter stature somehow lack maturity and power. Many men go against what you say such as Bill Gates and from my personal experience shorter men seem to have more academic drive.
Just for clarification I’m 5`10″ so I’m the un-bias mid-ground in this debate.
Everyone seriously look IM TALLL TOOOO what the hell should I do huh
I like your comment ! That’s right .. I do agree with you . LOL
I just didn’t like one guy i liked had told me that he like’s cute woman , like small and short .. and I was like smh smash it left and right LOL ..
I’m Asian but I kinda tall 5’6
I been wanted to have a tall guy I always get a tractive to a tall guy but I ended up marry to a short men smh .. and now Im stuck! ! No turning back I’m married so this would be it 🙂
I don’t think power has anything to do with height. Short girls are not less powerful than tall girls. It’s about personality.
I’m just 5ft.(152.5)
But I’m still happy everyday:))
Is it ok if I’m a little tall cause XD I’m not that tall but people always say I’m soooo tall my best friend is so tall ok done XD SOMEONE SAY WHAT THE HELL WE sHOULD DO EH WE DK BUT ITS JUST THAT pEOPLE WANNA BE SHORT BE HAPPY who you are your like a celebrity cause tall girls are rare you can’t find them everywhere just like Zendaya she’s very tall so be happyyyy turn DOWn FOR WHAT
I’m 6’2″, 16, and female. I personally find this post to be very true. All of my friends are short and I constantly see them get flirted with and hit on. Even the guys that are really tall go for my friends. I find myself physically attractive and always have, but the male population never seems to think so. Of course, girls often hit on me (because obviously if I’m tall, that automatically means I’m a butch lesbian).
I hate the “powerful” and “aggressive” image that comes with being a tall girl, because despite an athletic and curvy build, I really wish I was “cute” and “adorable” like my friends. I work out six days a week to have an ideal body, and yet men would rather a short, chubby girl that’s standing right next to me. I would honestly give anything to be desirable to men, even if the age group was above mine. Even older guys don’t find me attractive.
Maybe I’m just one of those people that’s not meant to find love or something, lol…
Hey chick im 37 married with 3 young boys n i feel your pain… i struggled with my height when i was younger n im 6 ft 1 n size 10 feet… as iv got older n wiser iv realised men did find me attractive but intimidatin. Some men have a chip on there shoulder n cant deal with strong women.especially tall strong minded women b confident n cheeky. That gets you everywhere. Embrace your beauty someone out there will adore you one day i hated my height now i deal with it n smile n wave… hope this helps
I’m a 5’10” 19 year old girl. I feel your pain. Even more so because your taller than me. But in high school these girls started a rumor my freshmen year that I was a lesbian- just because I was tall!! So not only were the boys throughout high school too intimidated to approach me, but the stigma of being a lesbian followed me the entire time I was there. I feel just as disheartened as you in terms of I’ve never been asked out on a date, never been flirted with, never even been kissed, and I’m pretty sure it’s because of the height, because, like you, I acknowledge that I am beautiful (all the catcalls I get from all the s*** men proves it) . It seems even harder because I’m smart and I love intellectual conversations. I love to run, and I was very athletic in highschool so I have the skinny, athletic build. I never once got asked to a school dance. I remember asking a guy I liked sophomore year to the sadie hawkin’s-esque dance and he showed up in his taller dress shoes because he was maybe an inch shorter than me and he told me “I’m so glad you didn’t wear heels” and I cried for a week after. I just wanted to say you’re not alone. Even now, in college, I’ve never once been approached, even by the taller guys, and I feel desperate and it sucks. Like, is it so bad to want even the smallest positive attention from a guy? It makes me feel totally rotten to be ignored by the opposite gender when I’m attracted to them…especially when I’m attracted to a specific person.
It’s easer to make fun of other people’s differences then to take a long deep look at your own shortcomings ( no pun intended ). I’m 5 foot 2 male and when I was younger I was teased so much I, could not even sit next to pretty girl never mind look her in the eye. I wish I could run away from my own self. The only thing that saved me was my dad!!! He was 5 feet 5 but really strong mechanic he showed my how to build my body how to make witty comebacks when teased about my height.
I had to toughen up and not take any crap ( this did take almost five years). I’m still only 5″2″ but I’m the guy at work they come to first when they have a problem because I finally found confidence ,maturity , strength of will . I will not be beaten by a what life throws at me, be it stupid little comment about short guys are weak
Your are not weak you can find inner strength and the strength drawn from family and close friends . And by the way tall girls rock!!!!!!!’!!
Aw!!! Seriously I have the same problem. Just tell youself that you are a model and that guys are too intimidated to ask you out because they’ll think you’ll say no (because obvs they think you’d probably be taken if you’re a model!)
Hey, I’m a dude 6′ 4″ and personally, I find tall girls extremely attractive, I just like their slim beutiful features, so don’t be sad if you’re tall.
Hey, I am still growing and I have size 12 feet, but I am only 5’9.5! So, I just wanted to say that I know your pain.
Wish you could lend me 4 inches of your height we would both be happy! lol.. I’m 5’2 and I absolutely hate it. I would like to become a VS Model, everyone tells me if I was taller I’d be perfect and idc my height is my biggest insecurity as well. I feel like people don’t take short girls seriously.
It is not easy being tall. I am 5’11” and in great (excellent) shape at a size 6-8 with hips. I don’t get hit on much. And now days men can be passive and women go after them, I don’t play that game, maybe that’s my problem – I like men-men not she-men that like getting picked up. Height is not all its cracked up to be.
I’m 14 and 6’4
But I have a bf that is about 2 inches taller than me and he is 17
Men like petite and has curves..like me lol
Honestly, guys only like shorter girls better. Guys don’t want to be with someone who is taller them and have to bend down just to kiss them. They want to piggy back them and carry them. Not something you can do with a tall girl.
When a tall skinny guy is easily out-lifted in weightlifting by either a short fat girl or a short stocky girl, especially when he towers over her by more than a foot while she outweighs him by more than fifty pounds, he sometimes feels ashamed or embarrassed (or both). However, he often becomes REALLY TURNED ON (and so does she!!!).
Yes, height is often associated with strength and power but that is not always the case, even when there is a male vs. a female. I was a tall skinny guy (I am still tall and skinny) when I met a short fat girl who became my girlfriend. I stood 6-foot-1 at 125 pounds. Very tall and very skinny!!! She stood 4-foot-11 at 190 pounds. Very short and very fat. AND VERY STRONG (which I soon found out!!!). One day, early in our relationship, we decided to lift weights in my apartment. While she was watching me, I grabbed a big heavy (fully-loaded) barbell from the floor. I tried to lift it over my head. I COULDN’T EVEN GET IT ABOVE MY THIGHS!!! Then came her turn. While I was watching her, she grabbed that big heavy barbell and, while I continued to watch her, she easily lifted it RIGHT UP OVER HER HEAD!!! She easily saw that I was embarrassed losing to her because of my being a male and her being a female and also because I stood way taller than she did (towering over her BY MORE THAN A FOOT!!!) so she walked over to me where we both stood in front of each other and then I was looking way down at her while she was looking way up at me when she and I suddenly began kissing each other tenderly and passionately (our first kiss as girlfriend and boyfriend). My embarrassment vanished right there on the spot!!! I realized that she was way bigger and stronger than I was even though I towered way over her and I had no problem accepting that (especially after she and I began kissing each other!!!).
Interesting article although not fully accurate. At one point they mention that around 5’5 is considered to be tall. I’m that exact height and I’m no where near being tall. I’m not short either. It depends on the country from where you are from but I know in the U.S between 5’4 and 5’6 is just about average, 5’5 being exactly in between. There always seems to be debates about tall and short girls, but everyone seems to forget about the in between girls.
So true
I miss being called cute, all I do is intimidate men. The boy I have been obsessed with for months said I am too tall for him even though he is 5’11” and I am 5’5″. I am too short to model but to tall to attract anyone I like. When I was in middle school I was 5’4″ and everyone thought I was short and now I’m like a monster to everyone.
Dude I was in middle school,and like 5’6… I’m 5’11 now.
I’m assuming this guys on the shorter side? 5 foot 5 inches is certainly not tall. It’s perfectly average. Between 5’4 and 5’6 is the average height on a scale for females, everything else is shorter or taller. Do not get discouraged and love yourself for who you are. Obviously if some douche bag guy can’t appreciate you for who you are than he doesn’t deserve you and you can do a hell of a lot better girl!
My bad I didn’t see that you wrote he was 5’11…never the less I stand with what I said!
I’m in middle school and I’m 6’1. the guy that I like is like 6’2, and he thinks I’m too tall for him.
GTFO try telling that to the girls that are 5′ 10″ and up lol I’m a 6 foot tall girl
I’m 14 and 5’5, its actually tall in my country. Asians don’t tend to be tall. I am NBSB, so idk why tall guys in my school likes short girls. I even asked my crush, also taller than me (well actually, a boy whom I like for 2 yrs and secretly wished that he is my boyfie, and dont forget that I’ve got like 10 pics of him pinned on my bedroom wall) which he prefers, and you know what he said? — “Louisa is my crush. You know the pretty girl short and stuff. I really don’t know but I think short girls are cute ya’ know? Unlike you.. but hey you’re pretty too hahaha bla bla bla” Ughh, sometimes I hate that I’m tall
5’5 is not tall or short so you have the best of both worlds, not towering for men but you have good length legs
5’5 is considered tall for east asian. Mine is 5’2 but i always wish i could be taller..not for any boys, but its just what i want. Whenever i look at models and how i wish i could be more like them. Like the jenner girls. With height that i have now, yes, there are boys attract to me but i really do wish i have your height. If only i didnt hit my puberty early i would be a tall woman by now. I had my puberty at 10 so no more growing height for me
Come on gal dont be shy abt who u a….luv urself too bits and all shall be well