Studies show that 98% of women love James Bond.
Of those 98%, 95.7% of them have had erotic dreams involving at least one of the Bonds. The lucky ones, have had dream scenarios with several James Bonds; either independently, together, or in-duplicate. Bondage scenarios are more rare, but numbers spiked soon after Casino Royale.
Further analysis shows that the 2% of women who do not love James Bond, are highly correlated with controlling, insecure partners who seem threatened by fictional characters and imaginary friends.
Alright, I admit that I pulled these numbers out of my cute toosh; but I think a large majority of women love James Bond, and a large majority of men want to be like James Bond.
This article is about why women love Bond and how men can acquire Bond-like success with women.
1. James Bond is Unattainable
James Bond is the ultimate unattainable man. He is very successful at acquiring attractive women. However, he is only interested in casual relationships and never truly gives himself to any of his partners. He is charming, he is hot, and he is irresistible, but he always keeps a part of himself, only to himself.
This drives many women crazy because they all want to be the oneto “decode” him and save him from himself.
When we reveal all of ourselves to our partner, there is no longer any mystery left. There is nothing more to strive for, and the excitement and challenge will quickly dissipate. That is why many long-term relationships fall into a rut, and fail.
Relationships that are strong tend to involve partners that are constantly learning and changing. There is always something new, something special, and something mysterious, that is yet to be discovered.
2. James Bond is Physical
James Bond is a man of action. Once he has a mission or goal in mind, he goes off and gets it done. There are no excuses, fears, or uncertainty.
This type of overwhelming confidence and can-do-ness is extremely attractive in a man. Having a man like that, is like walking around with a nuclear warhead. You feel safer, you feel more confident, and you feel like you can take over the world.
Everyone will notice you. All the women will kill to be you, and all the men will kill to be with you.
This is not about looks, but rather about confidence. Confidence is always important, for both men and women. If you are uncertain about yourself, others will be uncertain of you too.
Confidence, however, does not mean arrogance or violence. Confidence does not mean spending all your time talking about yourself, and how you are God’s gift to women. Confidence does not mean you should try to pick fights with people in order to prove yourself.
There is a peaceful silence in confidence.
Confident people do not say much, but they say what is necessary, when it is necessary. The rest of the time, they are taking care of business.
3. James Bond is Sensual
James Bond wears animal magnetism like a second skin. The way he walks, the way he moves, and the way he looks, make it impossible for women not to notice him in a provocative way. Someone who moves like a panther, and is licensed to kill, must be something amazing in the bedroom.
Not all of us can be killer secret agents, but we can certainly practice grace in action and movement. Learning how to dance is a good way to achieve some of that grace.
I am a big fan of Latino dances, in particular Salsa dancing. Salsa is powerful because it combines both grace and passion.
Dancing salsa, in many ways, is like making love in public.
There is a lot of passion, there is a lot of touching, there is a lot of gyrating, and it is all legal, as well as safe.
Most men are not very interested in dancing. In Salsa clubs, there are few men who truly know how to dance and how to lead. If you are a guy, looking for love, consider taking up Salsa. Not only will it train you to move more gracefully; but it will also give you a valuable skill that differentiates you from the guys and project hotness for the gals.
4. James Bond is a Snappy Dresser
Not everyone can look like James Bond, but everyone can certainly try to dress like him.
Part of James Bond’s appeal stems from his well-groomed, debonair look. He wears clothes that complement his physique, has nice hair in all the right places, and does not wear any excess jewelry.
I am not suggesting that you run out there, get a tuxedo, and be a slightly pudgy James Bond look-alike. Instead, you should wear clothes that complement your own personality, style, and physique.
Personal hygiene and grooming are also of utmost importance. Comb-overs do not, has not, and will never appeal to women. Protruding nose hairs are also a big no-no.
Always try to look your best. Looking good will make you feel better about yourself, and more confident about the world. Also, you never know when opportunity is going to knock.
5. James Bond is Smarter Than the Average Bear
When people think of James Bond, brainy is not necessarily the first thing that pops to mind. But James Bond does have the brains to go with everything else, and this is what makes him the best of the best.
Not only can James Bond curse in any foreign language, but he can also converse in them, albeit, with a strong English accent. James Bond is witty, quick, and well versed in, pretty much, anything. James Bond is adept at playing chess, poker, and whatever mind-games evil villains throw his way.
In reality, it is simply not possible for anyone to be that brainy; not evenYogi. However, a little bit of homework can go a long way towards simulating brilliance. Women like men who can listen and talk intelligently about their topics of interest.
Whenever you are out with a woman that you like, make sure to listen to her. Remember her likes and dislikes. Google her or subtly inquire friends about her favorite activities; then, do some research on them. Be prepared with interesting questions and clever viewpoints, but do not just blurt them all out at the start of the date. Timing is crucial; so be patient, and slowly introduce your prepared brilliance in an off-hand and natural manner.
With Google, and a bit of forethought, you too can achieve Bond-like brilliance.
Blofeld from 68 says
Most women like the idea of a man with some characteristics of James Bond. They find the actors playing Bond attractive. Its the same reaction to most leading man types. However, ..they don’t seem to actually like Bond movies or books. I know a lot of hot women and they think the films are silly. They will see a Bond film to placate their partner but you wont’ find a group of women in line to see a Bond film. They don’t buy the product placement. Most actors who have played Bond have not concealed their contempt for the role. The reason they don’t use Superman to sell cars and watches is because he is not real….surprise…neither is Bond. Was that shaken not stirred enough for you.
James (no, really) says
Reasonably good article. Yes – there is a panther-like magnetism about the Bond character that IS attractive to both sexes (even a degree of homo-eroticism). Fact is that Bond says little – he controls the silence -, he listens intently and he ALWAYS has a mission, his purpose to which the woman is secondary. He is supremely confident without arrogance but is ultimately vulnerable.
We can all learn from him – he is basically being simply a masculine male (no, not pumped and aggressive) – and that is what femine females actually desire
Scott says
Ultimately bond loves women however he doesn’t put them on pedestals
Aaron B. says
James Bond is my role model. To me he is a very mysterious man which I am also. I never throw everything out on the table about myself and I’m sometimes silent when asked about my past. I don’t have anything to hide is just that I prefer to keep some things only to myself.
Purple Shoes says
I’m a woman and i have never felt a bit attracted to James Bond at all i don’t know what all the fuss is about he cares too much about appearances and dress code this is far to superficial and shallow. James Bond lacks compassion for other human beings with all his killings so unappealing not even a good role model. If James Bond is so confident then how come he struggled to reach any of his own goals in life like self fulfilment and actualisation surely to be confident you are sure of your own weaknesses and move on to achieve what you actually want to do in life and not get swayed by your associates that James Bond regularly did and that is not confidence he was in a subordinate position and that shows a complete lack of confidence for and sleeping around with loads of women is a major big sign a insecurity.
Anonymous says
James does love deeply, but everytime he quits for a woman she ends up dead…..
price says
he so hot, i would sleep jump him in a second.
Jester says
Nice blog. Good to see refreshing honesty from an attractive, feminine woman.
Gemma says
Do you mean the comment from Purple shoes is attractive and feminine or the author?
Gemma says
Oh wait I just saw the date of your reply so its to the author
lafenty says
None has come quite as close to Bondness as Sean Connery, but Daniel Craig is nipping at his heals. He certainly fills out his tux better than any of his predecessors.
Aya_Hajime says
lol lafenty. Yes me thinks he fills out his tux really well.
I also like Connery but mostly in his post James Bond roles. I think the Bond creators really did a good job in terms of reorienting the Bond character towards something more serious and more visceral. I think Craig fits that new role extremely well. 😀
Misha says
LOL Aya-chan, not sure about James Bond, but you seem to like Daniel Craig 😛
packerpack says
Good points pulled forward. Hope this will help single males (me included) get some idea how they should be to get a girl. Hi, I am Pack, PackerPack 😀
badcompany99 says
Dont like Craig as Bond but loved him in “Layer Cake” I pefer the old Connery, better at the oneliners. Nice read though : )
JamaGenee says
Until DC came along, Pierce Brosnan was my favorite. Sean Connery as Bond never did wind my watch, but after he was older and in other roles…oolala!
btw, DC as himself is just a nice-looking man. Nothing more. Something about putting on that tuxedo turns him into Bond-the-super-hotty!
Aya_Hajime says
lol – I absolutely agree with you. I didn’t even really notice DC in Elizabeth. But as Bond – OOLALA!!
Strangely, I like the older Connery more. Still he always had a bit too much hair for my taste. 😀
mayhmong says
Don’t care too much for James Bond yet, til I reach that age! I just wanna play with his gadgets.
dianacharles says
Maybe you should have had another poll of how many men would like to achieve Bond like-brilliance.I know 2 of my male friends, call themselves Bond, but how many are out there.
A fun read though besides the very attractive Daniel Craig, do you think it would be possible to include pix of all the Bonds?
Aya_Hajime says
lol – I think many men would love to be Bond – cool cars, cool gals, cool gadgets. Very few downsides – aside from being shot at and tortured by villains. But still, you always end up “on top” in the end 😉
Re pictures: What other Bonds? Sorry, I have too much fun looking at DC. I am probably this articles’s most frequent visitor. 😀
kea says
Nicely done. I try to be like Bond, but still need a little work with Salsa and Tango!